Thursday, July 23, 2009

Spouseclub Archive Excerpt No. 6


Spousechat Archive Excerpt No. 6

Editor’s Note: This sixth in a continuing series of samplings from the “Spousechat” message board includes Ms. Lynda’s detailing of her wedding to Mr. Lynda and some matriachal pre-wedding events adapted from a romantic fantasy novel, Ritual of Proof by Dara Joy. Ensuing installments will focus on Ms. and Mr. Lynda’s honeymoon and their life as newlyweds.)

CHARLES
Lisa finally took a day off yesterday. We had a very relaxing day at the beach, and she seemed very relaxed and at ease the entire day. I tried to do everything I could possibly do to make her day enjoyable. I treated her like a queen at the beach. In fact, there were three women on a blanket next to us who commented to Lisa, you know, "Where did you find him?" Does he always do this for you?", etc, etc. I found all of these comments to be so complimentary to me. After the beach, Lisa's mother came over and I made them a great dinner. After dinner, they sipped wine as I treated each of them to a pedicure. I gave Lisa a French pedicure and did her mother's in a light pink----it really set off their tans. It made me happy to see how much they enjoyed their evening.

MS. LYNDA
What is a French pedicure? Do you kiss her feet? That would be great, but, did you do that before her mother? Obviously, Lisa's mother enjoys seeing you in a servile role also. I think the positive comments from other women, and perhaps from men, will assist in making men more comfortable with their new role. It will be equally great when it is no big deal. Keep up the good work and service to Ms. Lisa. She deserves it and you are obliged to do it.

CHARLES
The French pedicure has a pink basecoat and the tip of the nail is white. I think I said it the other way around before. Anyway, after soaking and lotioning the foot, the cuticle is pushed back, the tip of the nail is trimmed and filed (for a French pedicure, square it off a little). The light pink base coat (Lisa likes L’Oreal Barely Pink) is applied, allowed to dry and then the tip is done in white, and curved to the shape of the nail. A clear coat is then applied when the nail is dry. It usually takes me about an hour to do this. Have your boyfriend try it sometime, if he makes a mistake, there's always polish remover.

MS. LYNDA
Mr. Lynda does not give me pedicures; however, I think he will be learning this craft very soon. It sounds like a lot of fun. He is very good at massaging my feet after a very busy day, and I appreciate that very much. I also adore having my feet kissed. It gives me such a sense of power as I observe him in such a servile position.

MS. LYNDA
The company I am working for sent me to a town about 180 miles away from where I live. We had lunch and did some shopping before we returned to the home office. Mr. Lynda followed us through the shopping mall and carried our packages. When I tried on a new outfit, I had him hold my purse.

CHARLES
Ms. Lynda, I frequently accompany my wife shopping, and on occasion, one or two of her friends will shop with her and I will happily accompany them. In order to make their shopping more enjoyable, not only will I carry their packages, but I will even take the outfits Lisa wants to try on to the dressing room for her and stand in line to pay so she doesn't have to. I'll hold her purse and her friends’ purses if they want me to. I've never received anything but compliments from women, customers and salespeople alike. On occasion, a man will say something like "boy does she have you trained", usually jokingly. Any man who is saying this to me is probably out shopping with his wife as well and is probably also doing as he is told.

MS. LYNDA
I love men. I have found the man who will take second seat. If he had been unable to do so, we would not be getting married. I think the same is true for Charles and Lisa. I may tend to dominate my boyfriend; but I do not punish and hurt him. We fit together very nicely. He will still be a man; he will be my man. And I will love him for that, And he can call me, "Ma'am!"

CHARLES, FROM NOW ON MR. LISA
Lisa and I have decided that from now on we will be known as Ms. and Mr. Lisa S., thanks to you Ms. Lynda. I decided to take this step because I feel I need to do more to further the new matriarchy, and hopefully this will generate questions and comments from women and men. I must admit, it may possibly be a little uncomfortable at first. I am going to the stationery store today to order some stationery (envelopes, address labels) with the name Ms. and Mr. Lisa S., so I guess today will be my first test as to how I will go about this. But anyway, I will let you know how it goes. Lisa's mother (Catherine) shares most of Lisa's viewpoints on this matter, so of course she thought it was a fantastic idea. As a matter of fact, Catherine is a member of a local feminist group, and she has been talking for a long time about having Lisa and me as guest speakers at one of their meetings. I can hear her now introducing us----"Please welcome my daughter and her husband, Ms. and Mr. Lisa S." I think Catherine enjoys seeing men in servile positions even more than Lisa does. As a matter of fact, the other day when I picked up her ankle bracelet after getting it fixed (as you recall, I broke it), I brought it over to her house. She was just getting ready to go to dinner, when I went to hand her the anklet, she said, in a very nonchalant tone, "Put it on me would you, Charles?" So I did. She thanked me and I left.

MS. LYNDA
I am so very proud of you for taking the step to become Ms. and Mr. Lisa Smith. And I feel a special closeness to my sister Lisa. How did yesterday go at the stationery shop? Were you waited on by a male or female clerk? Does Lisa's mother wear the pants in her family? What does her husband do? If you can speak before the feminist group, do so with pride as Mr. Lisa. I am sure you will gain new respect for yourself and to yourself. I realize that privacy is an important issue, but can you at least tell us what part of the country you are living in now, or what state?

MR. LISA
The female clerk was quite surprised when I told her the names I wanted on the items I was ordering. When I explained it to her, she thought it was the greatest thing that I was actually taking my wife's name. She told me that I was a really enlightened man and that she wished more men were like me. I think this is typical of the reaction of most women.
As far as Catherine, Lisa's mother, she is divorced and has been for as long as I have known her. She does date, and from what I have observed, she's in charge of her relationships. Lisa wants me to go with her mother to speak to her organization by myself. I believe Catherine is arranging it, and Lisa is going to write a short presentation for me, but I believe the question and answer session will be most interesting.

MR. LISA
In the office, Lisa can be playful, and it is her office, she even owns the building. She has joked around a little with me saying things like "If you want to get ahead in my company, you'll have to perform under the boss’s desk." So, who knows what may happen. I can only hope.

MS. LYNDA
Keep us informed about the presentation before Catherine's feminist group. You may start something that will end in a matriarchal village. That would be wonderful. Also keep us informed about your temp work for Ms. Lisa. I do hope you find yourself under her desk one of the days you work for her. It would make me feel very powerful. It is only play, and we all need that.
I hope you give good service to Ms. Lisa and the rest of your superiors during your temp work. May you be a credit to Ms. Lisa. Do not forget your other chores that make her life easier. She accomplishes a lot because of you. I know she could do it without you, but it is better with you serving her.

MR. LISA
The first day, yesterday, was tough. Lisa is an unbelievably busy woman and keeping up with her instructions is a difficult task. I made a lot of mistakes. Then, of course, when I got home, there were all of my other tasks at home to do. I worked till midnight. Your last comment is most appreciated, she could do it without me. You really have a way of putting a man in his place, Ms. Lynda, and I commend you for that. Sometimes my ego, like that of most men, gets too big and I need to be reminded that Lisa doesn't need me to succeed, but her life is more enjoyable because of the things I do for her. However, the sex aspect aside, all of these are things she could hire or pay other people to do. She has chosen to allow me to do these things for her, so it is a privilege. Thank you for reminding me. Well, time to get ready for work.

MS. LYNDA
I thank you for the compliment, but I am also sure that Ms. Lisa is quite adept at putting you in your place, and is quite a boss. You are so lucky to be married to her because she is a powerful woman. Do you remember to tell her that you are honored to serve her and make her life easier?

MR. LISA
I think I did OK for my first week, although I was chastised for forgetting a few personal tasks she told me to do. Like yesterday, I was supposed to pick up her dress at the cleaners, but I forgot. I'm trying to come up with some new ways to pamper and please Lisa, so if you have any suggestions, Ms. Lynda, please let me know. I want to re-dedicate myself to making Lisa's home life even more enjoyable. As far as the presentation, Lisa is going to prepare something for me this weekend, with her mother's input. I think they are going to get together on Sunday.

MS. LYNDA
I always love when my boyfriend does something that makes a very public statement. I love to walk with him when he is wearing one of his "matriarchal" t-shirts. He was one that says, "I belong to Her", and another that says, "Don't ask me. She's the Boss." You might get an ID bracelet that says something like, "I Belong To Her." It is discreet but, it is also a profound statement of your relationship. It is a simple thing that might make her feel all the more powerful. I do not know how sensual Lisa likes to get, but have you ever done some of things mentioned in the Total Woman book. It was written a long time ago and tells a woman how to keep interest in her marriage.
One day my boyfriend met me at the door dressed in the sexiest outfit I had ever seen him wear. Later, while I began to eat, he stripped completely naked and presented himself to me. He was so cute and vulnerable. He knelt under the table and gave me the greatest cunnilingus a young woman could ever want. The rest of the evening continued in a similar way. I felt so powerful and loved.
He does one other thing that makes me feel so powerful and womanly. He makes no jokes about my special time of the month, but purchases my tampons, inserts them, and seals it with a kiss on my vagina. My girlfriends cannot believe how wonderful he is; so many of their boyfriends avoid them during that short time of the month. Again, I feel so cherished and adored. Every woman should have this experience. It is such a small thing for a man to do.

MS. LYNDA
Next weekend is the date of my wedding. Some friends and family threw a bridal party last evening. Mr. Lynda's mother escorted him into the room to face the tribunal. The Lady Officer of the Evening asked me if I accepted Mr. Lynda. She then asked him if he was entering into the relationship freely. Mr. Lynda was dressed in a very sheer bathrobe. After he said he was entering into this relationship freely and without reservation, he was escorted into another room where he was stripped and inspected for his "virginity." We were given permission to continue toward the wedding date next week where he will promise to "love, honor, and obey me in all things." Both my mother and his mother thought the party was a great idea. Mr. Lynda even enjoyed the attention. We are going to have a binding ceremony and a naming ceremony before the more traditional service. I love the feel of power.

MS. LYNDA
I just got back from our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. The dinner was prepared by Mr. Lynda and served by the men of the bridal party. Tomorrow we will have the Fastening and Naming Ceremony at 11:00 a.m. and the real wedding at 6:30 p.m. If I can get away and have some free time, I will write about the Naming and Fastening Ceremony. Mr. Lynda's life is getting ready to change in a most dramatic way beginning tomorrow. However, we have come up against one snag. The local newspaper will not report that Mr. Lynda is taking my last name and that as a couple we will formally be known as Ms. and Mr. Lynda (My Last Name). Prejudice against dynamic and demanding women still exists.

MR. LISA
Lisa has told me that I will not be returning to work on any regular basis, not that I did a bad job, just the opposite, but she needs me for other things. Congratulations on your wedding this weekend, I hope all goes well. As far as my guest appearance at Catherine's group, it's next Wednesday. She and Lisa discussed it last evening as I gave them their weekly pedicure. Lisa cannot attend, but I know Catherine will do an excellent job of showing the group what a "perfect, supportive husband" is like. I have been instructed by Lisa to do whatever Catherine tells me to do, and to make sure I answer everyone's questions honestly. I intend to act quite subordinate to Catherine for the entire evening, I intend to address her as "ma'am" and wait on her hand and foot for the entire evening. I will make Lisa proud of me.

MS. LYNDA
I know you will make Ms. Lisa so very proud when the women of Catherine's group discover how much you obey women and make life easy for them. Will this be a "lecture / demonstration" or a talk? I hope you are serious about being Mr. Lisa S for these women. If they see what can be done, they may begin to demand it for themselves.
I know you do not play games with Ms. Lisa, but has she ever made you call her Ma'am or such in public? I want to do that to Mr. Lynda during our cruise so that everyone will know who the boss is at our house. It seems harmless enough since we will not see most of these people ever again. Tell me what you think about my bridal party. I will write a short post after we have our other "naming" ceremony.

MR. LISA
Your bridal party sounded like a lot of fun for all of the women who participated. I suspect that Mr. Lynda was somewhat humbled by the whole experience, especially considering how he was dressed and the fact that he was inspected. But, as you know, it is often necessary for a woman to humiliate her man so he is reminded of who is in charge. Who did the inspecting? What kinds of questions were asked of Mr. Lynda by the women present? I think it would really make a statement if you made him call you ma'am throughout the cruise. One of the things Lisa likes is to lie by the pool or at the beach with me sitting at her feet, even if there are chairs available. She says it keeps me alert and aware of any needs she may have as she relaxes. I am always at the ready in case she needs something. You should do this on your cruise as well. I have had some experiences where Lisa had me call her ma'am in public. I'll tell you about them when we both have more time. Have a great time on your honeymoon, Ms. Lynda.

MS. LYNDA
This is the evening I will get married. After this morning's experience, I had to rush home and post this message. The real ceremony is this evening. This morning at 10:00 a.m., we had a Fastening Ceremony as related in the novel Ritual of Proof. It was a very powerful moment for me and for women. When you get married, some of you should re-create the same scenes. First of all, both my mother and future mother-in-law are ardent feminists. They have been very supportive of our decisions, including my soon to be husband taking my name and letting our family address be Ms. and Mr. Lynda BJ in the most formal sense. This morning, the wedding party assembled in a small reception room of the hotel where the big reception and dinner will be held this evening. A limo came to the home that I am housesitting this summer to pick my mother and me up. There were six male attendants in the limo, each dressed like a Chippendale's dancer except for a sash that went from his shoulder to waist. (The sashes were in a deep blue, the color of my family sash.) When we arrived at the hotel, the attendants went and got a sedan chair and carried me into the reception hall. My future husband was standing in the middle of the room. There was much applause as my mother and I entered the room. The men were respectfully silent with their heads bowed down. My chair was lowered and I walked over to my namebearer. The assembly made a circle around us. The woman performing the ceremony told my boyfriend he should now kneel before me. In the novel, Jorlan refuses to kneel and must be forced down by his attendants. My boyfriend decided to re-create this part of the book. He did not kneel. As his attendants approached him, ready to force him down, he gave me the most wonderful smile, bowed at the waist, and fell to his knees. He was also dressed in the style of a Chippendale dancer. He was naked from the waist up, but he wore a red sash. This was the color of his family. My Maid of Honor for today processed into the room carrying a large and elegant pillow. On the pillow was another sash in my family color. I removed the sash from the pillow and walked closer to my boyfriend. (I am going to make up these names so we can enjoy some privacy.) "Preston Smith, I give you my name, and will allow you to raise and care for the children that will be made from us. You are no longer Preston Smith. You now are Preston BJ, the male of the house of BJ." I took off his sash and replaced it with one of my own. His mother brought me a pair of scissors and I cut his sash into two pieces. The assembly clapped and roared. He groveled before me and kissed my foot. "I accept you as my name giver and I will be Preston BJ for ever more. I acknowledge our family as Ms. and Mr. Lynda BJ from this day forward. I promise to love, honor, and obey you in all things." He kissed my foot again, followed by my lower leg, the upper thigh, and then he buried himself under my short toga skirt and kissed my vagina. I could feel wetness from him. I said, "Arise, Preston BJ." He was crying as he arose to his feet. I hugged him, kissed his face, and asked if everything was o.k. I wanted to know if we could go on with the ceremony. I received the loveliest present from him. He said, "I am the happiest man in the world right now. I do promise to obey and adore you for the rest of my life. You are my queen. I am your slave." I knew then we could go on with the last part of the ceremony. My mother brought forth a "cockring." I unzipped his tight pants and freed his penis. I put the cockring on him. His mother brought a silver chain leash forward. I attached it and led him to the breakfast table. Of course, he put himself together again. I am carrying the leash with my things this evening. It will be something borrowed. He has been instructed to wear the cockring under his tuxedo so that he will remember his pledge to me this morning. This ceremony may sound silly and more fantasy than reality. However, we all had fun. At breakfast, my future husband wept openly several times, always saying how happy he is and how proud he is to be my husband. He gave the greatest testimonial to his mother for raising him to realize that women could be the head of the family and the man could easily be the supportive, subordinate and submissive spouse. His mother said, "I entrust him to you for further training and love. He is a good boy who needs the direction of a strong woman. Let him be your helpmate." It was my time to cry. It is now time for me to get some rest so that I am ready when the limo comes to take me to the church. So far, this day has been perfect.

[NAME LOST]
Congratulations are in order, Ms and Mr BJ. Sounds like your house and husband are both in good running order. I must say I was surprised by the open use of the cock ring as well as the acceptance of its use by all those involved in your ceremony. Fantasy or not, I congratulate you on entering a lifestyle that few dare venture into, shunning the confines and boundaries of mainstream society. I would like to offer a suggestion of some other femdon sites that also participle in this lifestyle and actually might offer conversation that is more in line with your lifestyle than just the regular non s/m traffic here at Spouse Chat! Again this is just a suggestion!
I was really enjoying your posts to the board, and believed them for the most part, but now it has segued into overt fantasy. That’s really sad to me though, because I would love to believe there are those who accept women as the head of the household, but it appears that, on the Internet anyway, it must always be in the realm of wishful thought and BDSM-esque fantasy scripts. If I'm wrong please tell me but as for now I'll just say I enjoy your posts and wish they were real.

MS. LYNDA
Of course, you do not have to believe what I have written, and there is no way I can prove it to you. If you know that my husband was a drama major in college, it might help you know why we were able to live out this fantasy. We enjoyed the book Ritual of Proof* and that is why we decided to live out some of the scenes as part of our wedding. We did this before a small group of close friends instead of elaborate bachelor and/or bachelorette parties. As I said, many may think this was silly, but it helped us prepare for the very seriousness of our ceremony. I was very unprepared for the serious ceremony. I knew something was up. We did do the ceremony from memory so he could say, "love, honor, and obey." We had decided to have us announced as Woman and Husband, Ms. Lynda and Mr. Preston BJ. "Preston" spoke with the priest, and she announced us as Ms. and Mr. Lynda BJ. It was a complete surprise to me. Please know that we take the ceremony very seriously. We just wanted to have some fun while we did prepare. It did make the church ceremony all that more special. SM/BD has very little place in our relationship. I am sure some would consider that we have more than a "normal" couple, but they would be surprised. We are a very loving and caring couple. In the end, I do not care if you believe or not. That is your right. I just know that our family will be different, but special. As to my mom and his mom, I think they understood the "fun" of the ceremony. I would not mind hearing more of your comments. However, I am now getting dressed to go back to the reception and leave on the first part of our honeymoon. It will be some time before I am back on line. Sometimes I do feel a little guilty and very much like a liar because we have to guard ourselves quite closely. Perhaps that is another reason we had fun last week at the bridal party and this week before the wedding. There are too many people who will not acknowledge a woman's ability to lead and a man's ability and willingness to follow. Enough said. I have to get back to the reception. Thank you for your comments. Know that what I wrote did happen, but it was part of our "fantasy" weekend.

[NAME LOST]
Hello Ms Lynda, please don't take offense at what I said. As I read back through my message I realized it might sound like I’m trying to somehow challenge what you said. However, just as you noted that it is impossible for you to prove that something happened, it would likewise be quite ridiculous for me to claim it didn't. I also want to say that maybe your story only sounds fantastical to me because such a lifestyle is central in my fantasies. All I can say is congratulations! I hope your marriage is a happy and fulfilling one, for both of you.

* Note: In support of Ms. Lynda’s account, I found the following posting from a ‘Jonathan’ in the guestbook of novelist Dara Joy’s website—and it’s still there as of this posting:
“My girlfriend demanded I read your book RITUAL OF PROOF since we are a matriarchal couple. When we marry, she wants me to take her last name. After reading the ‘marriage scene’, we acted it out with me kneeling before her and promising to ‘obey her in all things.’ I have yet to finish reading the book since final exams are coming up and most of my time is taken up with studying. I cannot tell you how exciting it is to read a book that puts women in charge and has men in a subordinate and supportive role. We wish all society could be that way. Perhaps you are the seer of the future. Perhaps what my girlfriend and I do is not so far fetched. Someone else is thinking these things too. Will be looking at this site quite a bit more often. Good luck!” — Jonathan (Saturday, April 20, 2002 at 15:08:37 - EDT)

(End of Spousechat Archive Excerpt No. 6 – to be continued)

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Ms Lynda, my husband and I are wondering about your sex life. How often do you allow Mr Lynda sexual relief? And especially, if you do allow him relief , how is it given. He seems so very submissive and you very dominant, will you have him wear a chastity device for months at a time? My husband and I both agree that he (my husband) should wait for relief a minimum of one month, and then based on his behavior more weeks are added so he could end up waiting for more than two months. I must admit that I do add weeks for simple infractions, or if I felt that he was not fully attentive to me at any time. For example, two weeks ago, after he thought he was finished cleaning the three bathrooms in our house, I went into mine and found that although it was clean, he neglected to fold the toilet paper on the roll into a folded point that shows the toilet has just been clean. I called him back into my bathroom, showed him what he neglected to do, made him clean the entire room over again (it takes him about one hour), and added two weeks onto the two additional weeks I added for a previous infraction. So now he is working on eight weeks until he will be allowed to cum, and he is at five weeks now. I told him that he still has three weeks to go on perfect behavior, and the next time he displeases me I will add a month regardless of what it is. I'll post back at that time to let you know how the next three weeks have gone. My feeling, he'll be waiting the extra month, I'm feeling very dominant these days.

Irene said...

Dear Ms Lynda

I just found your site and i enjoy every bit of your articles.

I am a young 20+ female from Asia. Presently i am into a very happy relationship with my boyfriend.

I realized that girls my age are becoming more and more dominant, i am learning a lot from all my other girl friends from schools and now your site. I think it common to see boys serving their gf in public these days.

I had many boys chasing after me. That's when i demand more and more from each boys. Before we became couples with my present Bf. I made him do almost every bit for me, if not, I would punish him. I even treat him quite badly at times but he still serve me and do to my demands. Thats when my authority and dominant grows. Which i am also enjoying.

Do you see a difference society in the near future where woman rules and are in total control of the relationship and treating men as slave or second level gender.

On the other hand, i am also worried about seeing my 2 younger brothers are or will be the slave
to their gf.

Regards
Irene

Anonymous said...

Irene, regarding your recent posts here, it is great to see such a young woman exercising her dominant trait. Just about all women have it, but most choose to ignore it. You are doing your boyfriend a favor by making him serve you. Even if you don't stay with him, you have made him submissive for the next woman he will meet. Once a man becomes submissive, my husband says that they seldom have the desire to be dominant ever again. And that is so true with my husband. It took us many years (about 25) to find out our roles with eachother, me dominant and him very submissive. But you are off to a great start!!!When I was in my 20's the male was always in charge, it was the way I was brought up and I never thought that someday I would be punishing my husband because I am in charge and he now must please me. As for your brothers, communicate with their girlfriends or wives someday, and try to drop hints to see if they have made your brothers submissive. You know your boyfriend is happy, otherwise he would have broken up with you. Your brothers will experience the same happiness. Just look at this great site and others that are listed on the side, many, many men love their women to dominant them, keep them horny( you may need a chastity device for your boyfriend), and in return expect nothing but the satisfaction of serving the woman they love. My husband does wear a chastity device since I do not allow him to cum very often. See previous letter. He must wait 2 to 3 months, after a month his behavior is perfect and I get to enjoy the benefits for another 2 months. Of course he begs, but I never give in. Try this on your boyfriend. You didn't state how you punish him, but I hope it's not by spanking. I learned with my husband that he liked that to much, and it was work for me swinging that whip. Now I add weeks and also punish him my favorite way. He must strip naked and I bring him to a corner to stand in. I place a pair of my worn panties between his nose and the wall, tie his hands behind his back with about 16 inches of cord or scarf between his hands and command him to stay there . .for 2 hours. I can go out shopping, take a nap, or sun outside with no worry about him. If he moves away from the wall, the panties will drop to the floor and it will be impossible for him to pick them up and return to that position. Also, in case of an emergency, he can sit down, bring his tied hands down under his feet and untie himself. But this would have to be a real emergency like fire. If the panties are on the ground when I return after 2 hours(and twice they have been), then he gets 2 more days at 2 hours each, so now 4 hours. I'm sure the women who read this site would enjoy hearing from other wives and girlfriends on how they punish their men without using a whip.

Mark Remond said...

This is grand -- I couldn't be happier than to step back and let the Comments section on this blog become female-led, as we see in the last three entries. And, of course, all the guys and I will benefit from the back-and-forth discussion.

Anonymous said...

Mark is right, it would be great to see more comments from women about how they maintain their FLR with their husband or boyfriend. The comments section would be so interesting, so come on gals, take a few minutes and post them here.

Anonymous said...

I submitted a post yesterday in response to Irene's comments. After my husband read mine, he said it sounded like I have no sex life at all because I make him wait very long to cum. I do have a great sex life, although I am 55 years young, it has diminished some. About once a week my husband provides me with a wonderful full body massage, uses some of the many vibrator toys we own on me, and of course gives me intense oral sex. I am not too fond of penetrative sex, I don't get anything out of it I guess because my husband is ready to explode the second I allow him in me. He says he can't help it, aafter waiting so long even the thought that he is going to be allowed to cum he says could put him over the edge. Plus I don't like the mess, and again I know that is because he has a large build up. So I used to make him wear a condom, which I really didn't like, or what I usually do now is tell him that he must withdraw right before the point of no return and ejaculate into a large plastic cup. I will lend him a helping hand only at this time. I do enjoy teasing my husband, once or twice a day during the early weeks before his chastity device(CB 6000) goes on. I will stroke him just enough to get him very aroused, then stop and tell him to start some housework or get ready to take me out. I want to say, Everything we do is mutual consent, he agrees on it all. In the beginning he gave me much guidance on being dominant and him submissive. I am pretty vanilla as he calls it, the kinkest thing I guess I have done was to spank or whip my husband while tied to the bed. But after a few times I saw how aroused he had become to the point of wet stains on the sheets when I untied him and turned him over. Some punishment I felt, and that was his idea. (It figured). I would rather make him wait longer for relief as a punishment, as well as the stand in the corner for 2 hours one. I would love to hear more non spanking punishments that wives or girlfriends use, although I really have little occasion to punish hubby, being kept horny his behavior is SO great. Thanks for putting together a great site Mark, your wife is also one lucky woman!!!!

Irene said...

Dear Anonymous Sister,

Thank you for your comments and suggestions. I am still learning and i will put what i have learn to good use bit by bit and i will also share it with my school mates and friends.

Sometime i found myself being too cruel to him, it hurts me but i think i am also enjoy seeing him begging and suffering.

Have i gone nuts?

Regards
Irene

Anonymous said...

Irene, No you haven't gone nuts or over the edge. You are very young and just exploring domination with your boyfriend. Yoy don't say how you administer punishment, but if your boyfriend is truly into female worship, there shouldn't be much punishment at all. We don't want slaves, we want a man who has decided that he wants to worship the woman he loves. I want my husband to wine and dine me, to do housework when he sees it's time to do it (ok, I do have to give a little reminder once every so often), and to pamper me with massages, the list goes on. What I don't want is to stand over my husband with a whip in my hand making sure he washes the floors well. That's work for me and fantasy for him and most men I'm sure. So read this site well, and most of all have your boyfried read every word of it as my husband does, it's a well put together site and Mark has really done research to make it so interesting. I somehow have the feeling that your boyfriend is more into you punishing him (maybe by spanking) than he really is into a FLR. Good luck, and keep exploring, you will find your own correct technique.

Mark Remond said...

Anonymous, I'm really enjoying the exchange of dominant ideas between you and Irene, and I hope she follows your guidance. It is also, of course, a thrill to hear that you highly encourage, or is it require, your husband to read every post on this blog. I wish I could be more prolific. Believe me, if you start a blog, I will be a faithful follower.

bob said...

MR Remond
Right now i am sure you are relaxing on vacation [or your wife is relaxing while you clean up].

Either way you defintly deserve a vacation after all the great posts that you have done on the Spouseclub archives.

I especially like the parts about the wedding ceremony.It's not exactly the ceremony that i would choose but it was extremly interesting and great to read!. I especially like the rehearsal dinner that was held beforehand where the men served the women .

I don't know if i would invite my own mother but that part was interesting.Especially the part where he gives up his name.

It would be interesting to read about female supremacist weddings or bachelorette parties where the groom is slowly stripped partially or fully naked by his wife in front of her cheering and giggling girlfriends.

I am not into collars and whatnot.But nothing would say female supremacy like a bride publicly putting a cockring on her husband as her friends look on with amusement and appreciation.

I have noticed that many of my male friends were forbidden to have a bachelor party or at least forbidden to have a female stripper.

Their wives however all had bachelorette parties and most of them featured male strippers.The wives openly flaunted the fact in front of me and others .

When the guys brought up and joked about the unfairness of it all the wives pretty laughed and said that they were the boss so they [ the women] could do whatever they wanted too. They usually told their husbands to "get used to it" .

This was said jokeingly .But i have no doubt it was very true.This would seem to be a trend for the future.

I might add that all of these couples were fairly mainstream types.One was a couple who were both solidly Republican! I mentioned him in an earlier comment.He was a carpenter who always did the housework after he came home from work.I know that while he and his wife often went out she also left him at home a few times to go out on "girls nights out".She was not a bitch to him.They had a very loving relationship in which she was in charge.

Who knows, maybe in the future the bachelor party will consist of men having a "laundry Party" and they will go to the grooms house and do his and their wives laundry while the women go out and enjoy the bachelorrete party while the men clean and prepare a dinner for the womens return.

I hope someday you are able to do a couple of posts on wedding ceremonies and ideas for FLR and matriarchal style weddings ,bachelorette parties and rehearsal dinners. Not to mention honeymoons.Especially ones which stress the womans pleasure and wants and desires!

Life is full of everyday rituals that we do not even think about.It will be interesting as some if not all of these everyday rituals and once in a lifetime rituals become more gynocentric.

Thank you for posting the archives and thank you for discussing these issues on your blog.