tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post8354597474136764247..comments2023-10-24T10:09:19.477-07:00Comments on Worshipping Your Wife: Give It Up to Your Queen!Mark Remondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-57469919106083260222008-12-05T16:04:00.000-08:002008-12-05T16:04:00.000-08:00Susan's Pet - Apologies for the long delayed respo...Susan's Pet - Apologies for the long delayed response. I do not take issue with your analysis... typical of the insightful postings on your discursive and provocative blog, which I've been savoring, dipping back into the archives. (I've also enjoyed your MW's artful postings.) I'm not really an analytical guy... more a fantasy guy. The power imbalance that I've encouraged in our marriage is part fantasy, but part reality... I do rely on her judgment over mine. But the satisfaction and pleasure I derive from the FLR is probably more like 60/40 in my favor, though I hope hers will increase.Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-22230947418859410892008-11-29T15:22:00.000-08:002008-11-29T15:22:00.000-08:00I feel your yearning to submit to a female. This "...I feel your yearning to submit to a female. This "balance of power" concept is the fantasy of men mostly. But I disagree with a lot of what you claim (unless I misunderstood you).<BR/><BR/>"The greater the imbalance of power, when you’re talking female-led, the greater the romantic and erotic potential… and the fewer arguments or domestic disputes. Where the wife rules, and the husband follows, as one such wife put it, “things go well and love is in the air.”"<BR/><BR/>That goes true for the bedroom. It fails in everyday life. I can see a balance of maybe 60/40, but not much more. The problem is that in a what I call normal relationship both partners need some satisfaction, regardless of what their needs are. Going deeper than 60/40, one of them is not getting enough. Give him or her time, and the relationship will break.<BR/><BR/>These so-called professional female supremacists have it all figured out. The problem with that is that it works only when it works! In general it does not work.<BR/><BR/>I am not saying that if the wife is totally sadistic and the husband is totally masochistic, this would not work. What I am saying is that if this totally masochistic husband is not getting his 100 percent mistreatement, he might not want to continue the relationship.<BR/><BR/>The bottom line is, whatever the needs are, on the average, a 50/50 satisfaction must be achieved regardless of who is whipping whose ass. FLR is no different: man wants woman to lead, woman must lead. If there is a disagreement over this, the thing will not work.Susan's Pethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910157397713736597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-54838986503533298922008-07-09T19:21:00.000-07:002008-07-09T19:21:00.000-07:00john & Mistress Kiara, I appreciate your acknowled...john & Mistress Kiara, I appreciate your acknowledgments, validations and comments. It's a pretty vague but highly charged topic, one that draws me back again and again. John, I'm about to leave for a 4-day family getaway, but I'll check out your reference and Kiara's website, too.Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-68927688918846843582008-07-09T15:45:00.000-07:002008-07-09T15:45:00.000-07:00“There is no greater sight nor braver man than one...“There is no greater sight nor braver man than one who melts to his knees, relinquishing control to the one he adores, doing anything that will please her.”<BR/><BR/>How beautiful, I've never heard this until now. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-47135684186128327832008-07-09T11:59:00.000-07:002008-07-09T11:59:00.000-07:00Ah yes! The release of letting go is heady stuff ...Ah yes! The release of letting go is heady stuff in a number of contexts, why not relationships?<BR/><BR><BR/>The specific issue of how power will be shared in the relationship is discussed <A HREF="http://www.better-relationships-over-50.com/power-in-relationships.html" REL="nofollow"> here </A> in a generic way, but it doesn't take much imagination to do whatever you want to with the concept.<BR/><BR><BR/>The real challenge in doing this often lies in how you handle the inevitable second thoughts, doubts, counter thoughts, etc. that are stirred up when setting a new course. <BR/><BR><BR/>These things are not bad and they do not mean that you are not really cut out for such a relationship, but they do require a plan.<BR/><BR><BR/>We all have been programmed with a myriad of beliefs, desires, and habits that we may not even know we have until we set out to do something new. Then they rise up to say "no, we do that this way." <BR/><BR><BR/>Generally, the best way to handle these pre-conceptions on any topic is to just let things keep flowing without trying to make anything happen or go away. Just watch and feel and it is likely to work itself out.<BR/><BR><BR/>There <I>are</I> specifics skills and techniques that make this work better, but they are beyond the scope of this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com