tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post931033640095615270..comments2023-10-24T10:09:19.477-07:00Comments on Worshipping Your Wife: DENNIS: MEETING JOAN AND LEARNING OF ‘THE PROTOCOLS’Mark Remondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-16039860608241515852014-03-04T11:35:06.506-08:002014-03-04T11:35:06.506-08:00dennis responds to "Sarah's" comment...dennis responds to "Sarah's" comment above:<br /><br />You are certainly correct that ritual plays an important role in an FLR because, as you say, it reinforces the roles of Woman and man in the relationship. We have numerous rules – collectively known as The Protocols – that govern things in our household; most are pretty mundane, but all have a place in the constellation of acceptable male behaviors as regards Women. We feel that the rituals and rules a couple practice are solely at the Woman's discretion. In our case Nancy and Her Mother determine the rules and rituals and i comply. While these are satisfying to me, what i want isn't important; what the Women want is! So, aside from suggesting new rules from time-to-time, i have no say in any of the rituals that form the fabric of our lives.<br />The details of our rituals are confined to our home or the homes of other Female-led couples. Even at the Center, the Feminist group where i and other men in our group volunteer, one sees politeness, respect, and deference but nothing i'd refer to as rituals. There's a thin line between respect and fantasy, and Women very rarely want to cross the fantasy line; in fact it's a HUGE disincentive to most Women considering a Female-led situation.<br />Nancy, nor for that matter any of the Women in Her family, would ever consider carrying out any of our rituals in the public eye; we don't want “funny looks” anywhere because we want a Female-led scenario to inspire others and not turn them away. Women are particularly turned off to what they regard as male fantasy as opposed to real dedication. In public i am attentive and deferential, always by my Wife's side and supportive of Her in conversation. When at home it's “Ma'am” or “Madame” but in public it's a polite “Nancy”. People know She's the boss but in a way that is attractive to other Women considering taking more control of Their relationship. What Women want from a Female-led relationship is a situation where he relieves Her of many – or all! – of the traditionally Female tasks of housework, freeing Her to pursue a career, education, personal interests, social activities, or simply to relax. men we know in FLRs are fully committed to their Wife's happiness and take great pleasure in Her following Her interests. In a real Female-led situation the desires of Woman and man converge on these things; what She wants is what he wants and he does whatever is necessary to support Her. His pleasure derives from his Wife realizing Hers.<br />As for the “feminization" you mention, of course that is entirely up to your Wife. But in our experience, Female attire is considered a Woman's privilege beyond the reach of men, at least in this societal paradigm. Most Women just aren't attracted to men in dresses, and in discussions we've had in various workshops, They overwhelmingly say so. In the case of my Mother-in-law, Sue, She feels that men serious about an FLR will do better to get on with the housework and forget the dress. She adds that She thinks i take too long putting on my required apron when i get home from work, let alone having to put on anything else! The apron She likes; otherwise She wants me working, that's what's really satisfying to Her!<br />Continuing on, as i'd written previously, in a posting titled 'Dress for Success', Women, in the broad opinion of society have the flexibility to adopt male attire. It doesn't work the other way but perhaps when Women are broadly recognized as the Superior Sex, They will see fit to extend Their dress options to men. Feminist writers have suggested this as an enticement to men as to what they – men – will have available when we have realized Matriarchy and Women are firmly in control.<br />d<br /><br />Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-31473117683853017512014-03-03T05:06:56.579-08:002014-03-03T05:06:56.579-08:00Dear Mark and Dennis and all the other posters her...Dear Mark and Dennis and all the other posters here.<br />Fascinating discourse.<br />Perhaps I can shed some light on a couple of things here.<br />In a Wife led marriage some specific rituals are important as they serve to ensure that the husband is reminded constantly of his status in the marriage.<br />Although my Mistress has used feminization and chastity/denial right from the beginning ( 35years ago)to reinforce her dominance. we certainly do have protocols.<br />for example, I am never allowed to sit in HER prescence before being given permission. All it takes is for Her to point at the floor/ground at her side for me to kneel.<br />Yes we get some funny looks in the park or a station but we ignore them.<br />I am not permitted to address her by name when out. I must use either Mistress or Madam.At home it is Mistress only.<br />It matters not what I am doing, if She requires attention, I must attend to her immediately.<br />I do the housework and washing/laundry but She does the cooking. At which she is superb.<br />When indoors I must wear dresses or skirts and blouses and these must be well presented and if She requested a certain type, it must be perfect and complete. EG my black satin french maid's uniform, with the correct 6 petticoats and the frilly apron, plus matching collar,6 inch spiked heels, locked in place and wrists and ankles joined by short 12" chains linked to the matching wrist and ankle cuffs.<br />As I am in chastity, I cannot provide enough with my tongue and strap on harness, for her pleasure.<br />Therefore it is logical that She should seek sexual pleasure elsewhere, She tends to favour other women but there have been occassional men. This is not Her being unfaithful to me, it is simply an excercising of her right to pleasure and the pursuit of personal fulfillment.<br />She has always been bi sexual and I accepted and encouraged this, which as She confided later opened her mind to my submissiveness.<br />She has always been discreet where my work and career is concerned, although I am always in lingerie.<br />Many of our circle of friends know of and fully accept that She is my Mistress and I her obedient husband.<br />Over the years we have noticed that a woman calling the shots is becoming, if not normal, certainly much more common.<br />Sorry to have gone on so long but I feel that our long life together in an FLR could be of help to other less experienced couples.<br />Sarah<br />sarah the slavenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-84206853095330619722014-02-10T14:35:56.972-08:002014-02-10T14:35:56.972-08:00Excellent post although it was funny tht it kind o...Excellent post although it was funny tht it kind of ended abruptly. Alexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-26997737763641672082014-02-05T09:07:10.451-08:002014-02-05T09:07:10.451-08:00I am kind of confused. People keep talking about w...I am kind of confused. People keep talking about women in femdom relationships being allowed to date other men. Why is that a sign of an "advanced" FLR? Regardless of who is in charge shouldn't both partners be faithful to one another? Isnt that the very definition of a relationship? Mutually exclusive love? If anything these relationships where the women are allowed to date other men should be called extreme relationships not advanced ones<br /><br />-RonaldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-42466078860818798102014-02-04T08:36:43.856-08:002014-02-04T08:36:43.856-08:00Dennis,
Was it difficult for you when your wife s...Dennis,<br /><br />Was it difficult for you when your wife started to date? <br /><br />- SteveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-2918633029692576342014-02-04T04:03:04.754-08:002014-02-04T04:03:04.754-08:00I think that subject would certainly be very much ...I think that subject would certainly be very much enjoyed if it was posted about, as david points out. Hey, Ms. Helene is missed here. What happened to Her? Is She more at ease with having a baby now, about a month after that experience. Ms. Hélène, are You around?<br /><br />Question about the protocols: how has a family been Female dominated for so many generations? I used to think that a few decades ago nobody did that! Are there more families out there like that? Is there any type of community that brings such families together?<br /><br />I do know Ms. Kathy, Her Daughter Ms. Becky and other Women in Her area all know about each other's Female Dominant marriages and Ms. Kathy even has a select group pf friends that are like that and they all hang out every so often. <br /><br />I think it's about time boys take their marching orders from Women and assume the roles of followers, homemakers, sweater knitters and kitchen cleaners (oh, and babysitters! The best one!) Women, like Ms. Hélène can leave their boys in the house with the baby while they work, watch sports or in very advanced Femdom relationships maybe date... how isn't that the basis for a lifestyle that would make a community? Toast for the Superior Females!Alexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-56385465149418472152014-02-04T01:23:09.596-08:002014-02-04T01:23:09.596-08:00Hi, just wanted to say both i and my amazing Wife ...Hi, just wanted to say both i and my amazing Wife really enjoyed this piece and would love to hear more from Dennis about the protocols in Nancy's family as well as his initial training. Perhaps something similar in vein to Ms Helene's posts about punishment or anything related to the initial training would be very much appreciated by all the readers of this blog I am sure. I only bring up punishment because it certainly has a special place in the initial training of a male.<br /><br />Thank you again to Dennis for the great readdavidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-11267485097284746732014-02-03T21:33:56.549-08:002014-02-03T21:33:56.549-08:00Dennis responds to Greg above -
Yes, Joan, Nancy,...Dennis responds to Greg above -<br /><br />Yes, Joan, Nancy, and Sue have given me a wonderful lifestyle. i think of Joan often, and it is those thoughts that have moved me to share my experiences under Her tutelage. <br /><br />dMark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-46036590606030655202014-02-03T21:09:13.593-08:002014-02-03T21:09:13.593-08:00My wife also has no vows of obedience and fidelity...My wife also has no vows of obedience and fidelity. We enjoy WLM Mr rodgersnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-66451332165216537492014-02-03T14:29:54.089-08:002014-02-03T14:29:54.089-08:00Dennis,
Do the men born and raised in this family...Dennis,<br /><br />Do the men born and raised in this family go through the same type of training? Does this reduce sibling rivalry between brothers/sisters?<br /><br />-GregAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-41051204430296893002014-02-03T13:23:31.945-08:002014-02-03T13:23:31.945-08:00Dennis will never be able to repay the blessings b...Dennis will never be able to repay the blessings bestowed on him by the wise matriarch Joan. <br /><br />He was extremely fortunate to be destined to serve Joan. Today, he is still blessed by her: he is allowed to serve her female Progeny.<br /><br />JAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-20541078986512973522014-02-03T12:02:54.311-08:002014-02-03T12:02:54.311-08:00Dennis' reply to Uxorious above:
Sue often re...Dennis' reply to Uxorious above:<br /><br />Sue often refers to Herself as Matron but you are correct that She is the family Matriarch. I use the terms interchangeably. <br /><br />Matron is defined as, "A married Woman or a Widow, especially a Mother of dignity, mature age, and established social position". <br /><br />Matriarch is defined as, "a Woman who controls a family, group, or government". <br /><br />In either case She is regraded with deference and great respect.Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-28609198584771310042014-02-03T09:41:40.799-08:002014-02-03T09:41:40.799-08:00Dennis responds to LS' comment on genuflecting...Dennis responds to LS' comment on genuflecting:<br /><br />"Yes, it has its place, which is, as you say, to remind males of their respective role in the household. But we don't get hamstrung with ritual. On the contrary, we have a variety of outward signs. Genuflection is required once, maybe twice a day. A stoop-and-bow works for my communicating the same reverence, it takes less time and i'm inclined to do it more often. Perhaps the most powerful to me is putting on an apron, one that one of the Women has selected. It is a constant reminder of my role and of the Women's authority. Women don't wear aprons in Nancy's family - men do."Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-56247602695760849812014-02-03T08:15:03.017-08:002014-02-03T08:15:03.017-08:00Maybe it's just a matter of semantics, but Den...Maybe it's just a matter of semantics, but Dennis refers to Madame Joan as the family 'matron', but isn't she really the family 'matriarch'?<br /><br />UxoriousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-27102539330925123562014-02-03T04:36:48.733-08:002014-02-03T04:36:48.733-08:00Women have always hated housework but it was their...Women have always hated housework but it was their role and they did it. Here we have a behavior control situation where the men are taught to love housework and talk about it's joys with other men. I love it.<br />2 questions among many.<br />1; are the men permitted to sit during meals with the Ladies or do they serve and eat elsewhere after clean up?<br />2; Are they permitted to sit on chairs ever in the presence of any Ladyfursissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-87375983714146298392014-02-02T17:51:00.006-08:002014-02-02T17:51:00.006-08:00Well Anonymous, sounds to me like the right cult t...Well Anonymous, sounds to me like the right cult thenAlexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-64167754767502575892014-02-02T13:19:37.757-08:002014-02-02T13:19:37.757-08:00Sounds more like a cult than a healthy functioning...Sounds more like a cult than a healthy functioning family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-7729872015858669842014-02-02T07:17:47.117-08:002014-02-02T07:17:47.117-08:00LS - My sentiments exactly. When I first read this...LS - My sentiments exactly. When I first read this post, before it went online, I wrote to him that I thought it was one of the most important -- and beautifully written -- posts he has done, and I predicted it would have a sizable and continuing impact in the FLR world. I will go so far as to say that I believe there will be many FLR and matriarchal households that will incorporate many of these protocols in the days to come, to the great benefit of the males and their guiding wives, just as dennis has said. And, yes, i do believe dennis has more to offer us on this topic. Stay tuned!Mark Remondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12975488338051622549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-91297613754439282842014-02-01T22:46:17.361-08:002014-02-01T22:46:17.361-08:00I think this is a very interesting and important m...I think this is a very interesting and important message from dennis. What’s interesting to me is that he is introduced to the “protocols” of Female privilege not by his wife but by her grandmother, the family’s matriarch. It seems that dennis has the honor of serving not only his wife but an entire family. Female-led colors not just the character of a single relationship but of an entire kinship group. I can only speculate, but this must make matriarchy much more of a reality than it would be if it was only a personal choice. In addition, maybe it is more satisfying—a real way of life in which one is immersed. It’s an experience that would be greatly beneficial pscychologically to men and the Women who are responsible for them. I also wonder what the effect of all that genuflecting has on everyday relationships. I imagine that it constantly reminds dennis and his male relatives of their “place.” I also imagine that there must be some deep pleasure in this way of life. I would like to hear more about it.<br /><br />LS<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203350475344374919.post-54786538202910465602014-02-01T17:42:18.353-08:002014-02-01T17:42:18.353-08:00"the man takes vows of obedience and fidelity..."the man takes vows of obedience and fidelity; She does not!"<br /><br />In this household, the women have partners other than their husbands? But the husbands remain faithful? I was under the impression that most women prefer monogamy so this part actually goes against what I believed most women want.<br /><br />-GregAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com