Nancy is up early every day and me
with Her. She is an executive at Her company and typically has early morning
meetings with staff, meaning She's at Her desk at 7:30. Add to this her nearly
hour-long commute into the city and, well... My commute is all of ten minutes
to make the four-mile trip to my work in a suburban business park. This is
ideal since it allows me to balance a career with housekeeping and serving two
wonderfully demanding Women.
Nancy's schedule and commute make
me want to do as much for Her as i can. We're both fueled by coffee so the
automatic coffee maker that Sue bought me for Christmas last year is a big
help; it has good hot coffee waiting when i get to the kitchen. While Nancy
showers and dresses, i take Her coffee and then prepare breakfast for both of
us. While we're both tired we have some of our best conversations early in the
morning, going over our plans for the day, providing each other advice, and
sharing the paper.
There's a lot to do though:
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Apron and
slippers on, no exceptions – looking the part is a big part of personal
service. Nancy rarely selects an apron, but i know to select one She'll like,
one that shouts, “i'm here to serve You!” I have a lot of aprons to chose from.
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Make and
serve coffee, including filling Nancy's travel mug for Her commute. Good coffee
gets a compliment and a smile; bad coffee gets brewed over and a scowl.
§
Pull
together business attire – The evening before i will
have laid out business attire for Nancy, making sure that the items are clean, pressed, and in good order – no lose buttons of hanging hems. i 'll also add a scarf and select a blouse. It's rare that Nancy doesn't approve of what i've chosen, although She typically accessorizes my selections a bit. i think this is Her way of saying, “You're not perfect so i have to make some additions.” And She's right! Being able to confidently pick and pack is one of the big benefits i've gained from working at the women's boutique. Real-life skills gained while serving Women! (As i've noted in an earlier post, i'm sought after as an expert in Women's clothing by guys in the office who need a gift for a Wife or Girlfriend... When i'm doing the shopping, She gets the best.)
have laid out business attire for Nancy, making sure that the items are clean, pressed, and in good order – no lose buttons of hanging hems. i 'll also add a scarf and select a blouse. It's rare that Nancy doesn't approve of what i've chosen, although She typically accessorizes my selections a bit. i think this is Her way of saying, “You're not perfect so i have to make some additions.” And She's right! Being able to confidently pick and pack is one of the big benefits i've gained from working at the women's boutique. Real-life skills gained while serving Women! (As i've noted in an earlier post, i'm sought after as an expert in Women's clothing by guys in the office who need a gift for a Wife or Girlfriend... When i'm doing the shopping, She gets the best.)
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Manage Her
tote bag – The evening before i'll make sure Her phone and tablet are charged
and Her computer bag and tote are packed. Nancy typically drives in a low heel
but changes to a “power” heel when She gets to the office, especially if She's
having a meeting – the power of the pump is real! Her power pumps, a wrap,
spare pantyhose, computer accessories, a makeup bag, some fruit for lunch, are
all in the tote which i carefully manage for Her. i've learned what She needs
and wants and make sure She has all these items. If She's anticipating an
after-work business dinner, i'll make sure She has dress pantyhose – ultra
sheer, black, seams – and definitely a dressier pair of shoes, a matching
necklace and earrings – something dangling? – and maybe a little black dress.
§
If She's
going out of town on business i will have packed Her bag with what She needs.
Business attire, one or two of Her many little black dresses if She's planning
on business dinners. Pumps for day and strappy sandals for evening. If She's
headed where it's warm, i'll include a bikini, wrap, and espadrilles so She can
enjoy the pool.
§
Serve Her
coffee as She dresses; i hover near but a respectable distance away as She
dresses in case She needs help with a zipper or an errant necklace; i'm Her
chambermaid to use – a throwback to the Edwardian era, a wonderful time of
personal service. It's a time for Her to dress, but for us to talk, too.
§
Once She's
dressed and made up, i'll walk Her downstairs, carrying Her jacket and shoes
and then seat Her at the breakfast table.
§
Make and
serve breakfast. We talk a lot at breakfast, but despite our conversation, i
never lose sight of my role, that of service. She generally has a light
breakfast and, of course, i serve Her before I join Her, as i always do. Today
i made Her a small omelet to order as She read the paper. We discussed some of
the front-page stories as well as some of the business articles.
§
Breakfast
over, Nancy gets up and sits on a chair in the family room – that says it's
time for Her to go but not before we complete a little ritual that i long ago
suggested and that She has embraced and loves. Seated on a chair in the family
room Nancy awaits my coming to kneel before Her to gently cradle Her foot and
put on Her shoes, buckling each if needed. i rise, She stands and accepts the
kiss i always place on Her hand. She's not supposed to say “Thank you,” but She
always does – i love Her so much!
§ i escort Her to Her car, making sure everything She
needs
is in the car and, after an affectionate kiss, She's off. Off as She says,
“To raise hell in the business world as only a Woman can.” And raise hell Nancy
does; i like to imagine the intimidating sound of two pairs of high heels in
the marble floored hallway as Nancy and Her Assistant go to the day’s first
meeting!
i'm off, too, but to the kitchen –
lots to do before i leave for work; homemaking comes first and i have a very
demanding task list yet to accomplish, so...
§
It's off
to the kitchen to clean up after breakfast and put together a light breakfast
for the still-sleeping (thankfully! She can be very demanding!) Sue. Cereal and
fruit plate with juice and a pot of coffee do the trick, and an eye opener will
help – usually a mixed drink of my choosing. It's all placed on a silver
serving tray with linen napkins and delivered to the sitting room outside Her
boudoir. I work quietly to avoid disturbing Sue, then leave Her a note asking
Her to call me if She needs anything or if She'll be expecting company; if She
is, my duties will change so i want to be aware so I can meet Her expectations.
§
i return
to our bedroom with my try to collect Nancy's coffee cup and a glass;
everything on a tray, remember? Even one coffee comes and goes on a tray, and
it does so even if i'm working alone without supervision.
§
i tend to
Nancy's nightgown, depositing it in the laundry. i'll look it over for any
necessary repairs after it’s washed and before it's returned to Her closet.
§
Next,
dress the bed. A seemingly simple task, but getting it just right is another
matter. Thankfully, all that time working in housekeeping at the hotel has made
me an expert bed maker!
§
And, of
course, i tend to the bathroom, making sure it's clean.
§
Light
cleaning with the feather duster flying around the
bedroom. A little cleaning
here and there makes thorough cleaning days all that much easier.
§ i check the living room to make sure everything is
in order. Clean ashtrays, filled candy dishes, organized liquor cabinet, TV
remotes within easy reach, clean floors. If the floor needed vacuuming, i'll
opt for a whisk broom at this early hour but will likely return over lunch to
use the vacuum cleaner and do a proper cleaning.
This done, i'm now free to leave
for work. Apron comes off and is placed on the peg in the kitchen; Sue will
likely pick a new one, sending this one off on the laundry and ironing cycle.
Sue often has me in three to four aprons a day; but i love to iron and the
satin aprons with their elaborate lace decoration are both a challenge and a
pleasure. Another reason that ironing is a pleasure is because they conjure
images of Joan standing over me while i ironed elaborate aprons, blouses, and
skirts, ever ready to apply corrective measures to ensure perfection. Ah, such
fond memories!
My day has just begun. There is
much more personal service to be rendered, at work, during lunch, and this
evening. It seems like a lot, but it is deeply satisfying – serving Women that
is...
--d
10 comments:
Another great post, lovely to hear how much you enjoy your lifestyle.
I particularly liked the bit about putting Her shoes on to Her feet.
Ironing is obviously a favourite - personally i'm finding that one hard to love :), but is there any particular task or duty that adds an extra frisson of excitement for you?
Cleaning of shoes is the one for me, oh and i always try to be just finished cleaning the kitchen floor when She comes down for breakfast, nothing like being at her feet on all fours scrubbing and looking up at my goddess. That is extra exciting for me and a little selfish, but She loves it also so that's fine!
AW
Oh My!
The shoe ritual is "just about to give me the vapors!" although if it were a ritual of my own design, it would be one of those immaculately clean shoes that you just put on her feet that would be getting the kiss!
Anyway beautiful post...
Keep it up and be good! The ladies deserve it.
I love that a tray must always be used. Taking it away on its own does not show the same servility.
it puts one in the position of a servant.
Femsup
dennis: You are indeed the luckiest man on the planet. i envy You and marvel at Ms. Nancy, She is a trasure :)
pantyhose slave
A great post! Will you continue to describe the rest of the day, after you went to work?
Honestly as a progressive man I enjoy hearing about powerful lady executives promoting female values and smashing patriarchy and male chauvinism; if you find the time, please describe us your day with Carol as well! Thank you!
dennis responds to clive (above):
There was a post written about serving Carol a long time ago... Also a post about working in a Woman-owned company.
Mark: Yes, here are the columns dennis refers to:
Sunday, October 21, 2012
NANCY & DENNIS: SERVING CAROL
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
NANCY & DENNIS: WORKING AT A WOMAN-OWNED BUSINESS
dennis responds to Anonymous ("I love that a tray...")
Using a tray was one of the very first things I learned. Using a tray adds a bit of formality and reinforces my status and role
dennis responds to AW:
It's all exciting but ironing is a favorite as is looking after the Women in between household tasks. i love being busy and engaged. The structure we have is also very good - always know what is required and how often. Structure is wonderful.
Tutto questo è meraviglioso, ma anche ripugnante se penso che non si sente nominare mai una cosa carina e gentile da parte di Nancy, o di Sue, come donna non ha assolutamente nessuna dolcezza nei confronti del marito....non si nomina mai un bacio, un abbraccio, una carezza, una parola gentile. Dennis perdonami ti ammiro ma sembri piu un facchino un servo uno schiavo....ti manca solo il contratto di lavoro e una busta paga....ma che matrimonio è questo?
Mark adoro il tuo blog, ma questa FLR Nancy Sue e Dennis non è per nulla di buon esempio. Questa non è FLR....perdonatemi tutti per questo commento. Ma non credo che una relazione d'amore sia fatta solo di schiavitù e pretese....alla base c'è l'amore e questo non è il modo di dimostrarlo. Adoro il vero FLR ed è per questo che leggo con passione questo meraviglioso Blog.
Alessando -
Translated by Google Translate:
All this is wonderful, but also repulsive if I think that you never hear a nice and kind thing mentioned by Nancy, or Sue, as a woman she has absolutely no sweetness towards her husband.... you never mention a kiss, a hug, a caress, a kind word. Dennis forgive me I admire you but you look more like a porter a servant a slave.... you only miss the employment contract and a paycheck.... but what marriage is this? Mark I love your blog, but this FLR Nancy Sue and Dennis is not at all a good example. This is not FLR.... forgive me all for this comment. But I don't think a love relationship is only about slavery and pretensions.... at the base there is love and this is not the way to prove it. I love the real FLR and that's why I read this wonderful Blog with passion.
From Mark: Dennis once answered a similar objection with an eloquent posting about why his service was an expression of his total love for Nancy. When I locate it, I will post a comment here with a link.
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