(Note from Mark
Remond. This is reprinted with the permission of Thomas Lavalle from his
discontinued blog, The Wonderful World of Female Supremacy.)
Back in the
1990s I came across a highly trafficked femdom Yahoo! Group known, as I recall,
“Trained Husbands and Happy Wives.” The creator and presiding goddess of this
Group (or Club) called herself “Rebeccadom” or “Madam Rebecca.” Not only were
her postings uncompromising in their assertion of female supremacy, but also—at
least it struck me as so—extremely affectionate and even solicitous toward the
inferior male sex. Fortunately, I saved some of these pearls of gynarchic
wisdom; and, after many years having just come across them, I’m taking the
liberty of reprinting them for the benefit of my readers. Perhaps (one can
hope!) Madam Rebecca Herself will learn of my little transgression and contact
me—either to order them taken down or to permit me to leave them in place.
Whatever her dictates, I will of course obey.—Thomas Lavalle.)
A GREETING
FROM MADAME REBECCA
The males in
this club are here for one reason—that is, to learn how to serve and make women
happy. The first rule is respect. Show it all the time and no matter who is
present. For those of you who are not in the relationship you want, show it and
see if it improves. For those of you unattached, show it and see if women don’t
start to take a liking to you.
THE NEED TO SUBMIT
Most males
cannot or will not admit their desire and need to be controlled by a female.
But whether or not they can admit it, a dominant female is like a goddess to
them and they not only crave our power but actually thrive on it. They become
better, more productive, nicer people. It is society that says men should be in
charge and should control women, but reality says otherwise.
CRITERIA FOR
A PERFECT SUBHUSBAND
Key
characteristics of a perfect subhusband:
Total Obedience.
Whatever she tells you, OBEY without question and the instant you are told.
Nothing is more important than obeying her commands instantly, completely and
with vigor!
Total
Respect for Her: Acknowledge her superiority. Your eyes should always be
downcast in her presence. Never sit before her, never begin eating before her.
Never take the best seat, food, view, etc. Thank her for any attention,
including a disciplinary action. Show complete respect for her and her guests
at ALL times.
She is your
idol and you shall strive to rid yourself of all things that do not interest
her. Your actions and attire show respect and admiration for what she stands
for. They show you have forsaken your maleness in preference for pleasing her.
Service:
Serving her needs and whims completely without complaint or hesitation. Serve
your Lady properly and diligently. Remember, service means ALL domestic duties,
serving her and her guests.
Mind
Submission: Many males try to think for themselves. You must learn to allow
your Lady to think for you. Tell you what to do, what you like, what you are,
what you are to think about and so on. You have no need for your own thinking,
and it will only serve to cause you trouble. Relinquish all thought processes
to her and accept whatever she tells you.
Don’t think for
yourself, it will only get you in trouble. Your lady will do your thinking for
you, accept her thinking as your own.
Enthusiasm:
Show you are happy to obey and serve her. Be genuinely thankful for the
opportunity and gratefully accept punishment. Remember, it takes effort and
time on her part as well as an interest in your improvement to punish you.
All males will
do well to memorize these virtues and follow them. All women will do well to
expect and enforce them. Remember, a well-trained husband equals a very happy
and fulfilled wife!
A WORD FROM
REBECCA’S HUSBAND:
Ms. Linda said to my wife, “Rebecca, you
really have done a wonderful job in training your husband. He has no idea of
even how to think like a man anymore, does he?” Madam smiled and said, “No,
Linda, he doesn’t. He thinks what I tell him to think and likes what I tell him
to like, and he is content to accept that.” Ms. Linda just smiled at me and
shook her head and said, “Rebecca, you really have it together, I need to be a
lot more like you.” In response, Madam promised her that that was entirely
possible.
ENCOURAGING
A WIFE’S DOMINANT NATURE
The best way to
help your wife’s dominant nature come out is to submit to her. Allow her to be
boss, make decisions, tell you what to do. The real key is for you to submit
and NEVER give her static on anything. Be encouraging and supportive. Show her
how she is better than you. It will take time and may never happen, but if you
are serious this is what you must try.
The first thing
I would suggest is to really understand what it means. That you submit to the
woman who takes ownership of you. And that means you do what SHE wants and the
way SHE wants it. Give up all thoughts of what you want or like. The second
suggestion is that you find a way to contribute to her economically, such as
holding a day job and turning your paycheck over to her as reward for her
taking her time to train and house you. You must learn to live for only her.
You must learn
what your wife wants and do what she wants. Being a sub is doing for her,
obeying her. As you do this she will gain confidence and learn to like it. It
may takes months or years or forever but if you are true in what you say you
need to ask her what she wants, listen to her and obey her. Then it will work.
What you have
to do is stop trying to get her to dominate you and submit to her. By
submitting to her, you give up your desires, your preferences, your needs.
Submit totally to her and in time your needs will get taken care of. You must
be really serious to do it and make it work. And you must totally submit to her
in everything, including your actions, needs, wants, ideas and even thoughts.
Now if you
accomplish this and stick with it, you will be well rewarded as a subservient
with no power at all. Her needs, wants and desires and your total submission
are what will get her to dominate you.
Women need to
see males repeat and repeat before they believe them. You are on the right
track, just keep it up. First, understand that women do not like to fight and
nag to get something done, and if they have to do so, either they will forget
about it or do it themselves. So if you do not dedicate yourself to being a
great maid, it will never work. You cannot say you will do the housework and
then not do it or put it off. You must do it and do it regularly and preferably
before she has a chance.
Women have been
raised seeing only women do this menial work and have been told they are a
failure if it is not done by them and done perfectly. To counter this problem,
you must explain how you enjoy doing it, how it makes you feel closer to her,
how it takes away your guilt feelings. She must see you enjoying it and you
must NEVER complain. Ask her advice and for her to inspect your work. Tell her
that you do it for her so she has more free time. Encourage her to go out and
do things with her friends and, yes, even male friends.
Remember you
are there to make her life a joy, and if that means you become a cuckold, then
be happy you are and happy she is enjoying her life. Remember you are not the
sex object, she is, and you are just the maid. Ask her permission and
her choice of how and when you get sexual relief and then obey her.
A lot of males
think that their submission is all up to the female, but in reality it is
almost all up to them. A woman will not waste her time with a male not suitable
for training, she will just do the things herself rather than put up with the
trouble and problems associated with an incompetent male.
Ladies, many of
you who have been married for a while or who have been living with a male for
some time have come to know that males can be a lot of work and occupy a lot of
your time. There are many reasons to train a husband, but the number one reason
is to free up your time and reduce your burden.
What can you do
with this time? Lots! First, you can pamper yourself or, better yet, be
pampered by him. Relax and enjoy your nails being manicured and painted while
you enjoy a TV show or a visit from a friend. Having hubby kneeling before you
will provide you with the pampering you deserve.
I can’t tell
you how much I enjoy allowing my husband to bathe me, manicure me, do my hair,
dress me and get me ready for a date with my lover. I wear items for my lovers
I would never wear for my husband, and he sees that. He knows I have many
choices, and this encourages hubby to obey and serve.
Ladies, don’t
waste another minute! Put your male on a training schedule today and start
enjoying the good life.
There are many
stages to training a husband, and it certainly would not do well to plunge a
male into complete and total servitude in an instant. That is why it is called
training. It takes time and initiative to get a male where he belongs, and for
a Woman to accept her true place as head of the house.
I began my
domination while we were dating. I let him know I did not trust him and that if
he wanted me, he had to prove to me he was only with me and would be loyal to
me. I taught him that he had to work harder at being what I wanted him to be,
and to be ready to serve me at all times. I don’t like housework, and I like a
male to submit to me. Submission was something I needed on a daily basis, and
for a male to do my bidding.
And rather than
a househusband, as you put it, I wanted a maid. Where was I going to get a real
maid? I had to make one. And who better to make into a real maid than my
husband? He would be loyal and always there when I wanted him. It gave me a
feeling of great power and I knew there could also be a lot of fun with it.
I don’t regret
training him for one second and neither does he. I think a woman must take
charge and press her will on any husband to be happy in today’s world. It used
to be a man’s world but that is no longer the case. Women are taking over.
Your male
should be looking and doing the same things. Think of all the advantages you
would have, how enjoyable life would be. No arguments from him, no wanting to
do something different than what you want to do. A well-trained husband learns
to have the same interests, the same likes and same desires as you do. Don’t
waste your life, get him into a training program today!
Males, these
are ideals that you should strive to mimic. There are a million benefits to you
to look, think and act like these very well-trained males. Do it, get yourself
on a program that will provide these kinds of results.
CORNER TIME &
‘PUTTING AWAY'
It is important
for all husbands to spend time in the corner. Not for punishment, although the
corner can be used for that; but corner time is excellent for training the
husband where and how to be when not needed.
I have done a
lot of research into what works best to keep males in their place and simply
placing them in the corner is one of the most effective ways I have found.
I require my
husband to practice standing in a designated corner of each room for five
minutes each day, NO EXCEPTIONS! I choose a corner in each room as his
designated corner. He stands facing the wall with feet together. A timer is set
by him for five minutes, and then he goes to the corner and stands until it
sounds. He repeats for the next corner and so on.
If he is
serving me in a room, and I am done with him for the time being or have no
further use for him, I will wave my hand at the designated corner and there he goes
until I release him. He is not permitted to talk, fidget or slouch, but must
stand in his heels with shoes together and weight evenly distributed. His head
must be bowed and hands folded nicely.
A daily routine
of corner time sets a standard that reinforces who is in charge and who is
important. Practicing this training in front of others adds a great deal of
effectiveness to the ritual. Having another person see you wave him off to a
corner and his instant obedience does wonders for both of you. Having a third
party see him set the timer and go the corner until it sounds and then repeat
will certainly bring a question as to what he is doing, at which time you can
explain. To further reinforce his subservient position, you may want to ring a
little bell and have him serve you coffee as you explain.
I place my
husband in the corner when not needed so he is nearby yet out of the way and so
he understands that he is for my use and my use only. Placing the male in the
corner is also good therapy for the woman in charge. The male has been placed,
showing power, that he has done what he was told or motioned to do, showing his
obedience and subservience. This reaffirms their unequal relationship and
creates a secure situation in the household.
Several members
have discussed an important point in male training, and that is the “putting
away” of a male when not needed or wanted. I want to expand on this important
point. It is a crucial part of training to teach the male that he is second in
all matters. He is there for the woman’s pleasure and service, and he must
never forget that.
Puttomh him
away into a corner may occur after he has done my nails and I am relaxing,
watching TV. I will wave my hand, which he knows means for him to go to his
corner. He stays there until told to do something else.
Okay, so why
put him away? First, it confirms daily your control and his submission. He is
constantly reminded that he is there to obey and serve you. It confirms to both
of you your power over him. Any hesitation on his part to following this order
must be dealt with swiftly and severely.
He becomes
comfortable with this as well. He knows what is expected of him, and he does
it. It is unfair to a male not to have expectations of him, not to have
requirements for him. He must know what is expected, and you must be consistent
with those expectations.
Putting away
makes doing something with his presence easy. When you want him out of the way,
a wave of the hand accomplishes it and there is no awkward discussion or
decisions to make. It is also very impressive for guests to see. But putting
away can be taken a step further, such as putting him in the closet or a cage.
It still holds the power that a male was sent to the closet, he went without
question and will stay until told to get out. He has been put away until you
want him to serve again.
Cage
confinement is usually to reinforce his insignificance. I have a large portable
dog transport cage that I take on trips. It’s amusing to see the looks on
people’s faces when they ask if I have a dog, and I say, “No, I have a
husband.”
You must
remember that it is important for the male to know he will be disciplined. It gives
him a reason to obey. Males are very weak-willed and need a reason to do
things. They need direction and a regular regimen to follow. They expect you to
do these things so they know where they stand and how they are doing. Ignoring
a male is the worst punishment he can get. Putting him through his paces
reinforces his approval. Your telling him to go to a corner or into a cage or
closet may seem mean to you at first, but I assure you, your slave will love
you for it and appreciate the time spent there.
FEMALE
SUPREMACY
Female
domination is a willing, loving, beautiful institution and should be admired by
all. So this is a place for positive reinforcement of Female Supremacy and male
subservience. A place where women can be the most they can be, and where males
can learn the joys and satisfaction of serving and obeying their superiors.
The number one
mistake males make is NOT obeying the orders and wishes of their female owners.
You want her to be more active and you desire to show her you are a useful male
and serve her. Does it not appear to you that if she told you or asked you or
that if you even thought she wanted you to do something, you should do it? Live
for her and let her do your thinking for you. Let her know that you know she is
always right and she is smarter than you and knows what’s best for you.
All males will
do well to memorize these virtues and follow them. All women will do well to expect
and enforce them. Remember, a well-trained husband equals a very happy and
fulfilled wife!
With power
comes responsibility. As a woman I have power over my trained males and, with
that power, it is my responsibility to train and teach and correct and PROTECT
them. Males are a valuable commodity to be respected for their abilities. Yes,
they are servants, but good servants are a valuable asset to any woman’s
holdings. True dominant women who own males know and understand this. We love
our well-trained males and, contrary to what many believe, train them because
we love them and because we want them to become better and more useful humans.
It is NOT out of contempt or meanness but out of practical use of a male.
When a male
submits to a superior female, he does so with choice; and his choice should be to
choose a woman who deserves to be submitted to. Being dominant and superior is
NOT without its responsibilities. A dominant female must protect, look out for,
advise, take care of, watch over, train and correct her submissive male. Submales
are for service, companionship, pleasure, entertainment and the removal of
pent-up frustrations, NOT to determine when, where, why or with whom Madam has
sex. The idea of any male attempting to control a superior female’s sexual
practices is wrong and unconscionable. A submissive male will do well to learn
to love his owner’s affairs and the joys it brings her. He will learn to obey
her commands.
Have your
husband sign a paper that says, “I agree that my wife shall have power of
attorney over me. I understand that it will now be up to her to decide when I
shall or shall not have sexual release and I agree to wear what she tells me
and do what she tells me. “
MALE SEXUAL
RELIEF
There are many
thoughts on male sexual relief. I will tell you what I have found works so well.
I believe a male should get sexual relief and on a regular basis. You may deny
it for lengths of time to get him to give in and succumb, but normally speaking
he should be allowed to climax once every three days. Yes, some males will get
out of the submissive mood for a while right after cumming. If this is the case
with your male, he should be confined for an hour and brought back into
submission before being released.
Sex is like a
drug to men and if you withhold it, you can totally control them. You can turn
them into willing, obedient slaves who will encourage you to take and enjoy
other lovers. Males truly love to please women, but they have no training or
guidance on how to do it, so it is up to you to show them. They are so much
happier and healthier once they are trained.
Resetting the
male sexual clock: When you have no sexual desire, which can happen for a short
time after cumming, you reject all that is associated with sex. When first
training my husband, I had the same problem with him. He was a doll until he
came, and then he turned into a male monster. After a few times of that, I had
enough and decided to cure the problem. I had a talk with him and explained it
would no longer be tolerated. I told him that after he came, instead of turning
into a male monster, he had to be MORE submissive or there would be hell to
pay.
What we are
talking about is achieving total submission. This is not something that
normally happens overnight. It is usually a journey and starts with sexual
rewards for the slave, especially if he is also a husband to the Domme. But
total submission results in sacrificing your sexual needs to the Domme as well.
(End of part one. Check this space for the second and concluding part in a week or so. –Mark Remond)
