Tuesday, December 28, 2021
THE GYNARCHIC WISDOM OF MS. REBECCADOM, Part Two
Thursday, October 14, 2021
THE GYNARCHIC WISDOM OF MADAME REBECCA, Part One
(Note from Mark Remond. This is reprinted with the permission of Thomas Lavalle from his discontinued blog, The Wonderful World of Female Supremacy.)
Back in the 1990s I came across a highly trafficked femdom Yahoo! Group known, as I recall, “Trained Husbands and Happy Wives.” The creator and presiding goddess of this Group (or Club) called herself “Rebeccadom” or “Madam Rebecca.” Not only were her postings uncompromising in their assertion of female supremacy, but also—at least it struck me as so—extremely affectionate and even solicitous toward the inferior male sex. Fortunately, I saved some of these pearls of gynarchic wisdom; and, after many years having just come across them, I’m taking the liberty of reprinting them for the benefit of my readers. Perhaps (one can hope!) Madam Rebecca Herself will learn of my little transgression and contact me—either to order them taken down or to permit me to leave them in place. Whatever her dictates, I will of course obey.—Thomas Lavalle.)
A GREETING FROM MADAME REBECCA
The males in this club are here for one reason—that is, to learn how to serve and make women happy. The first rule is respect. Show it all the time and no matter who is present. For those of you who are not in the relationship you want, show it and see if it improves. For those of you unattached, show it and see if women don’t start to take a liking to you.
THE NEED TO SUBMIT
Most males cannot or will not admit their desire and need to be controlled by a female. But whether or not they can admit it, a dominant female is like a goddess to them and they not only crave our power but actually thrive on it. They become better, more productive, nicer people. It is society that says men should be in charge and should control women, but reality says otherwise.
CRITERIA FOR A PERFECT SUBHUSBAND
Key characteristics of a perfect subhusband:
Total Obedience. Whatever she tells you, OBEY without question and the instant you are told. Nothing is more important than obeying her commands instantly, completely and with vigor!
Total Respect for Her: Acknowledge her superiority. Your eyes should always be downcast in her presence. Never sit before her, never begin eating before her. Never take the best seat, food, view, etc. Thank her for any attention, including a disciplinary action. Show complete respect for her and her guests at ALL times.
She is your idol and you shall strive to rid yourself of all things that do not interest her. Your actions and attire show respect and admiration for what she stands for. They show you have forsaken your maleness in preference for pleasing her.
Service: Serving her needs and whims completely without complaint or hesitation. Serve your Lady properly and diligently. Remember, service means ALL domestic duties, serving her and her guests.
Mind Submission: Many males try to think for themselves. You must learn to allow your Lady to think for you. Tell you what to do, what you like, what you are, what you are to think about and so on. You have no need for your own thinking, and it will only serve to cause you trouble. Relinquish all thought processes to her and accept whatever she tells you.
Don’t think for yourself, it will only get you in trouble. Your lady will do your thinking for you, accept her thinking as your own.
Enthusiasm: Show you are happy to obey and serve her. Be genuinely thankful for the opportunity and gratefully accept punishment. Remember, it takes effort and time on her part as well as an interest in your improvement to punish you.
All males will do well to memorize these virtues and follow them. All women will do well to expect and enforce them. Remember, a well-trained husband equals a very happy and fulfilled wife!
A WORD FROM REBECCA’S HUSBAND:
Ms. Linda said to my wife, “Rebecca, you really have done a wonderful job in training your husband. He has no idea of even how to think like a man anymore, does he?” Madam smiled and said, “No, Linda, he doesn’t. He thinks what I tell him to think and likes what I tell him to like, and he is content to accept that.” Ms. Linda just smiled at me and shook her head and said, “Rebecca, you really have it together, I need to be a lot more like you.” In response, Madam promised her that that was entirely possible.
ENCOURAGING A WIFE’S DOMINANT NATURE
The best way to help your wife’s dominant nature come out is to submit to her. Allow her to be boss, make decisions, tell you what to do. The real key is for you to submit and NEVER give her static on anything. Be encouraging and supportive. Show her how she is better than you. It will take time and may never happen, but if you are serious this is what you must try.
The first thing I would suggest is to really understand what it means. That you submit to the woman who takes ownership of you. And that means you do what SHE wants and the way SHE wants it. Give up all thoughts of what you want or like. The second suggestion is that you find a way to contribute to her economically, such as holding a day job and turning your paycheck over to her as reward for her taking her time to train and house you. You must learn to live for only her.
You must learn what your wife wants and do what she wants. Being a sub is doing for her, obeying her. As you do this she will gain confidence and learn to like it. It may takes months or years or forever but if you are true in what you say you need to ask her what she wants, listen to her and obey her. Then it will work.
What you have to do is stop trying to get her to dominate you and submit to her. By submitting to her, you give up your desires, your preferences, your needs. Submit totally to her and in time your needs will get taken care of. You must be really serious to do it and make it work. And you must totally submit to her in everything, including your actions, needs, wants, ideas and even thoughts.
Now if you accomplish this and stick with it, you will be well rewarded as a subservient with no power at all. Her needs, wants and desires and your total submission are what will get her to dominate you.
Women need to see males repeat and repeat before they believe them. You are on the right track, just keep it up. First, understand that women do not like to fight and nag to get something done, and if they have to do so, either they will forget about it or do it themselves. So if you do not dedicate yourself to being a great maid, it will never work. You cannot say you will do the housework and then not do it or put it off. You must do it and do it regularly and preferably before she has a chance.
Women have been raised seeing only women do this menial work and have been told they are a failure if it is not done by them and done perfectly. To counter this problem, you must explain how you enjoy doing it, how it makes you feel closer to her, how it takes away your guilt feelings. She must see you enjoying it and you must NEVER complain. Ask her advice and for her to inspect your work. Tell her that you do it for her so she has more free time. Encourage her to go out and do things with her friends and, yes, even male friends.
Remember you are there to make her life a joy, and if that means you become a cuckold, then be happy you are and happy she is enjoying her life. Remember you are not the sex object, she is, and you are just the maid. Ask her permission and her choice of how and when you get sexual relief and then obey her.
A lot of males think that their submission is all up to the female, but in reality it is almost all up to them. A woman will not waste her time with a male not suitable for training, she will just do the things herself rather than put up with the trouble and problems associated with an incompetent male.
Ladies, many of you who have been married for a while or who have been living with a male for some time have come to know that males can be a lot of work and occupy a lot of your time. There are many reasons to train a husband, but the number one reason is to free up your time and reduce your burden.
What can you do with this time? Lots! First, you can pamper yourself or, better yet, be pampered by him. Relax and enjoy your nails being manicured and painted while you enjoy a TV show or a visit from a friend. Having hubby kneeling before you will provide you with the pampering you deserve.
I can’t tell you how much I enjoy allowing my husband to bathe me, manicure me, do my hair, dress me and get me ready for a date with my lover. I wear items for my lovers I would never wear for my husband, and he sees that. He knows I have many choices, and this encourages hubby to obey and serve.
Ladies, don’t waste another minute! Put your male on a training schedule today and start enjoying the good life.
There are many stages to training a husband, and it certainly would not do well to plunge a male into complete and total servitude in an instant. That is why it is called training. It takes time and initiative to get a male where he belongs, and for a Woman to accept her true place as head of the house.
I began my domination while we were dating. I let him know I did not trust him and that if he wanted me, he had to prove to me he was only with me and would be loyal to me. I taught him that he had to work harder at being what I wanted him to be, and to be ready to serve me at all times. I don’t like housework, and I like a male to submit to me. Submission was something I needed on a daily basis, and for a male to do my bidding.
And rather than a househusband, as you put it, I wanted a maid. Where was I going to get a real maid? I had to make one. And who better to make into a real maid than my husband? He would be loyal and always there when I wanted him. It gave me a feeling of great power and I knew there could also be a lot of fun with it.
I don’t regret training him for one second and neither does he. I think a woman must take charge and press her will on any husband to be happy in today’s world. It used to be a man’s world but that is no longer the case. Women are taking over.
Your male should be looking and doing the same things. Think of all the advantages you would have, how enjoyable life would be. No arguments from him, no wanting to do something different than what you want to do. A well-trained husband learns to have the same interests, the same likes and same desires as you do. Don’t waste your life, get him into a training program today!
Males, these are ideals that you should strive to mimic. There are a million benefits to you to look, think and act like these very well-trained males. Do it, get yourself on a program that will provide these kinds of results.
CORNER TIME & ‘PUTTING AWAY'
It is important for all husbands to spend time in the corner. Not for punishment, although the corner can be used for that; but corner time is excellent for training the husband where and how to be when not needed.
I have done a lot of research into what works best to keep males in their place and simply placing them in the corner is one of the most effective ways I have found.
I require my husband to practice standing in a designated corner of each room for five minutes each day, NO EXCEPTIONS! I choose a corner in each room as his designated corner. He stands facing the wall with feet together. A timer is set by him for five minutes, and then he goes to the corner and stands until it sounds. He repeats for the next corner and so on.
If he is serving me in a room, and I am done with him for the time being or have no further use for him, I will wave my hand at the designated corner and there he goes until I release him. He is not permitted to talk, fidget or slouch, but must stand in his heels with shoes together and weight evenly distributed. His head must be bowed and hands folded nicely.
A daily routine of corner time sets a standard that reinforces who is in charge and who is important. Practicing this training in front of others adds a great deal of effectiveness to the ritual. Having another person see you wave him off to a corner and his instant obedience does wonders for both of you. Having a third party see him set the timer and go the corner until it sounds and then repeat will certainly bring a question as to what he is doing, at which time you can explain. To further reinforce his subservient position, you may want to ring a little bell and have him serve you coffee as you explain.
I place my husband in the corner when not needed so he is nearby yet out of the way and so he understands that he is for my use and my use only. Placing the male in the corner is also good therapy for the woman in charge. The male has been placed, showing power, that he has done what he was told or motioned to do, showing his obedience and subservience. This reaffirms their unequal relationship and creates a secure situation in the household.
Several members have discussed an important point in male training, and that is the “putting away” of a male when not needed or wanted. I want to expand on this important point. It is a crucial part of training to teach the male that he is second in all matters. He is there for the woman’s pleasure and service, and he must never forget that.
Puttomh him away into a corner may occur after he has done my nails and I am relaxing, watching TV. I will wave my hand, which he knows means for him to go to his corner. He stays there until told to do something else.
Okay, so why put him away? First, it confirms daily your control and his submission. He is constantly reminded that he is there to obey and serve you. It confirms to both of you your power over him. Any hesitation on his part to following this order must be dealt with swiftly and severely.
He becomes comfortable with this as well. He knows what is expected of him, and he does it. It is unfair to a male not to have expectations of him, not to have requirements for him. He must know what is expected, and you must be consistent with those expectations.
Putting away makes doing something with his presence easy. When you want him out of the way, a wave of the hand accomplishes it and there is no awkward discussion or decisions to make. It is also very impressive for guests to see. But putting away can be taken a step further, such as putting him in the closet or a cage. It still holds the power that a male was sent to the closet, he went without question and will stay until told to get out. He has been put away until you want him to serve again.
Cage confinement is usually to reinforce his insignificance. I have a large portable dog transport cage that I take on trips. It’s amusing to see the looks on people’s faces when they ask if I have a dog, and I say, “No, I have a husband.”
You must remember that it is important for the male to know he will be disciplined. It gives him a reason to obey. Males are very weak-willed and need a reason to do things. They need direction and a regular regimen to follow. They expect you to do these things so they know where they stand and how they are doing. Ignoring a male is the worst punishment he can get. Putting him through his paces reinforces his approval. Your telling him to go to a corner or into a cage or closet may seem mean to you at first, but I assure you, your slave will love you for it and appreciate the time spent there.
Female domination is a willing, loving, beautiful institution and should be admired by all. So this is a place for positive reinforcement of Female Supremacy and male subservience. A place where women can be the most they can be, and where males can learn the joys and satisfaction of serving and obeying their superiors.
The number one mistake males make is NOT obeying the orders and wishes of their female owners. You want her to be more active and you desire to show her you are a useful male and serve her. Does it not appear to you that if she told you or asked you or that if you even thought she wanted you to do something, you should do it? Live for her and let her do your thinking for you. Let her know that you know she is always right and she is smarter than you and knows what’s best for you.
All males will do well to memorize these virtues and follow them. All women will do well to expect and enforce them. Remember, a well-trained husband equals a very happy and fulfilled wife!
With power comes responsibility. As a woman I have power over my trained males and, with that power, it is my responsibility to train and teach and correct and PROTECT them. Males are a valuable commodity to be respected for their abilities. Yes, they are servants, but good servants are a valuable asset to any woman’s holdings. True dominant women who own males know and understand this. We love our well-trained males and, contrary to what many believe, train them because we love them and because we want them to become better and more useful humans. It is NOT out of contempt or meanness but out of practical use of a male.
When a male submits to a superior female, he does so with choice; and his choice should be to choose a woman who deserves to be submitted to. Being dominant and superior is NOT without its responsibilities. A dominant female must protect, look out for, advise, take care of, watch over, train and correct her submissive male. Submales are for service, companionship, pleasure, entertainment and the removal of pent-up frustrations, NOT to determine when, where, why or with whom Madam has sex. The idea of any male attempting to control a superior female’s sexual practices is wrong and unconscionable. A submissive male will do well to learn to love his owner’s affairs and the joys it brings her. He will learn to obey her commands.
Have your husband sign a paper that says, “I agree that my wife shall have power of attorney over me. I understand that it will now be up to her to decide when I shall or shall not have sexual release and I agree to wear what she tells me and do what she tells me. “
MALE SEXUAL RELIEF
There are many thoughts on male sexual relief. I will tell you what I have found works so well. I believe a male should get sexual relief and on a regular basis. You may deny it for lengths of time to get him to give in and succumb, but normally speaking he should be allowed to climax once every three days. Yes, some males will get out of the submissive mood for a while right after cumming. If this is the case with your male, he should be confined for an hour and brought back into submission before being released.
Sex is like a drug to men and if you withhold it, you can totally control them. You can turn them into willing, obedient slaves who will encourage you to take and enjoy other lovers. Males truly love to please women, but they have no training or guidance on how to do it, so it is up to you to show them. They are so much happier and healthier once they are trained.
Resetting the male sexual clock: When you have no sexual desire, which can happen for a short time after cumming, you reject all that is associated with sex. When first training my husband, I had the same problem with him. He was a doll until he came, and then he turned into a male monster. After a few times of that, I had enough and decided to cure the problem. I had a talk with him and explained it would no longer be tolerated. I told him that after he came, instead of turning into a male monster, he had to be MORE submissive or there would be hell to pay.
What we are talking about is achieving total submission. This is not something that normally happens overnight. It is usually a journey and starts with sexual rewards for the slave, especially if he is also a husband to the Domme. But total submission results in sacrificing your sexual needs to the Domme as well.
(End of part one. Check this space for the second and concluding part in a week or so. –Mark Remond)
Tuesday, July 13, 2021
BEAUTY AND POWER
(Editor's Note: This is excerpted and reprinted from “Revisiting Vivian’s Domain” on this website; see link below.)
“A key component of every man’s sexuality is awe. When he sees a beautiful woman’s face or an attractive figure, he is drawn almost against his will. He is awestruck and overcome by that power. Have you ever noticed how men behave toward a beautiful woman? They fall all over themselves to please her in some way. Even when there is no way such behavior will result in a sexual experience, men become the willing servants of beauty.
“She can understand this: Not only is there power in beauty, there is beauty in power! The ‘take my breath away’ kind of awe that a man feels when he sees a stunningly beautiful woman is similar to the feelings he had as a young adolescent toward women of power in his life—teachers, neighborhood moms, and strict women in general.
Monday, November 23, 2015
FAVORITE FOURSOME OF FEMDOM FICTION
CRUEL HEAVEN by Molly Sands As the author herself describes the story, “Step by step, body and soul, a young woman enslaves her husband. An erotic romance of sex and marriage, and the irresistible rise of a dominant woman.” Molly Sands is a gifted and skillful storyteller and writer, and this may be the best of her four titles to date—The Devlin Woman, A New Devotion and The Obedient Husband (a continuation of A New Devotion) are the other three. The author’s practice of issuing her books in sections can be confusing, but her avid followers (like me) enjoy the practice, as we are eager to pounce on each new installment hot off the press, just as were the followers of Charles Dickens. Bravo, Molly Sands, and encore, encore!
DANCING BACKWARD by Thomas Lavalle
Just published (November, 2015), this 152-page digital novella, subtitled “An Adventure in Male Submission,” follows the effective formula used by both Molly Sands and Ryan Peterson (see below)—constantly switching POV between submissive male and dominant female. This highlights the psychological aspects of the D/s power differential, which provides much of the energy and excitement of my favorite erotic genre. Lavalle is a wordsmith who sometimes lapses into over-the-top imagery (“…higher up, her opulent breasts, gloriously unhammocked and side-sloping, quivered with her laughter”), but he keeps his story moving forward to an ending that clearly requires a sequel. Nice debut, Thomas.
UNEXPECTED PRESENT by Ryan Peterson
A delicious femdom fable structured (I kid you not) on the model of O. Henry’s classic Christmas tale, “Gift of the Magi.” And it’s every bit as romantic and sentimental, which is not easily done in a story that includes a chastity tube, corporal punishment and financial domination. All of this is cleverly woven around an exchange of sexy, symbolic gifts over the Twelve Days of Christmas. Ingenious, matrimonially romantic and sizzling hot. How about opus two, Mr. Peterson?
LESSONS ON THE EDGE by William Gaius
Gaius, a writer-friend, is the most serious novelist of this quartet, a keen observer who just happens to write about femdom or female-led relationships. That is not to say that his page-turning tales are not highly erotic, because they are, with compelling and dimensional characters. “Edge” is a coming-of-age tale of intergenerational femdom about a young man who falls under the spell of his mother's friend, the dominant and fascinating, RoseAnne Perez.
Five stars for all four novels!
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
Farewell Repost: WORSHIPPING YOUR WIFE: 750-Word Digest Version
(Note From Mark Remond: After four-plus years of blogging on the challenges and rewards of wife worship, and another four years of working with a wide range of guest-bloggers, many with views quite different from mine (and to all of whom I am deeply grateful), I have decided to suspend new publication here in favor of other projects that have now caught my fancy. My intention is to leave the WYW archive intact as a resource.)
WORSHIPPING YOUR WIFE: Six Steps for Turning Marriage Back Into Passionate Courtship
“Boyfriends need to understand that if women are worshipped, the world will be a better place.”
“If you want your wife to be a Goddess, worship her.”
—Clairette de Longvilliers
“The thrill is gone.”
It’s the lament of so many married couples. Husbands and wives drift apart, physically and emotionally, or maintain alliances of custom and convenience, keepers of a flickering flame.
Love has its seasons, as John Gray reminds us in Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. It's folly to expect eternal springtime, perpetual romance.
But what if it's not necessarily true? What if love can be rekindled, even the all-consuming passion of first love? And not rekindled briefly, for just a season, but “ever after,” creating that fairytale future couples dream about when saying their vows?
That’s the extravagant claim of Worshipping Your Wife: Six Steps for Turning Marriage Back Into Passionate Courtship. Yes, courtship—because that’s when guys and girls find each other most mysterious and magnetic.
Here's the entire six-step program in a nutshell—nominally addressed to husbands, but most effective when hand-delivered by their wives (or girlfriends), with salty or salient passages underlined.
The husband needs to:
Step 1: Realize that "the thrill is gone" and that he wants to get it back
A man will do anything to win the woman of his dreams. Should he lose her, he will do anything to win her back. Why, then, is he not willing to do anything, on a daily basis, to keep her contented? Because husbands don't perceive that a wife can be lost if never again wooed or won, that marriage is also a crisis, deserving of extreme efforts.
Step 2: Save his sex energies for his wife
The dirty little secret is that passion doesn't ebb, magic doesn't vanish—not for most husbands anyway. Their fantasy life continues unabated, only focused away from their wives. With visual erotica a mouseclick away, too many husbands, while technically faithful, yield to imaginary infidelity. And, at the risk of sounding Victorian, chronic masturbation, solo and secretive, can rob a marriage of its binding energies.
Step 3: Make her his fantasy
The solution is for the husband to make his wife the centerfold of his inflamed imagination, as she was during courtship. When a husband begins treating her with that same homage, the deadening scales of familiarity will dissolve and he will see her restored to full, feminine mystery and radiance.
Step 4: Court her every day, attempt to win her anew
Let the dragon-slaying, and sonnet-making, and gift-giving continue. Also: In courtship, the man proclaims his romantic ever-readiness, but the woman decides when (or if) sex will happen. It is a wonderfully workable formula, attuned to the dynamics of male and female sexuality. Let the man be hopeful all day long, striving to earn or seduce ultimate favors. Let the wife initiate and announce the main event ("Gentlemen, start your engines!"). Sex will be better and hotter for both--and more frequent.
Step 5: Pamper her and pitch in around the house
Is it unmanly to pamper your wife? Is it insulting, or infantilizing to open doors for her when she's perfectly capable herself? Should a husband stick to gender-specific chores--washing the car, hauling out the garbage? The courtship model makes quick work of such debates: You can't do enough for her! And, in today's
two-income marriages, the woman ought not be expected to tie on the apron the minute she parks her briefcase. Let her log a few after-work hours in the La-Z-Boy (with a magazine and a Merlot). It may pay erotic dividends later that night.
Step 6: Dare to be known by her
Most men aren't comfortable discussing intimate or emotional issues--even sexual fantasies. But the more a marriage returns to the courtship model, the more a husband's thoughts—and fantasies--turn to his wife during the day, the more he will have to share with her at night (or other private times). Opening up to her will serve to strengthen emotional and sexual bonding--and preclude any temptation for a "misunderstood" husband to unburden himself to another woman.
“To me it’s pretty simple,” began a memorable post I found in a wife-worshipping message board. “It’s all about doing what I can do to make my wife happy. Because when she’s happy, I’m happy. It doesn’t take much once you get the hang of it. Every single day I just pretend we are dating and I try to win her heart.”