Wednesday, February 25, 2015
(Note: The previous posts in this series were written by the female-led husband, Geoff. Now, happily, we get to hear from his female leader, Carrie. —Mark Remond)
Just thought I would let you know our arrangement from my perspective. We have been in a female led relationship now for four months, and I couldn't be happier. I spent the first 35 years of our marriage working full time and running the household. I really didn't expect help from my spouse as this was the way I was brought up, although my mother was a stay-at-home mother.
When Geoff started investigating FLRs, I was at first skeptical, but willing to give it a try. Well, let’s just say that I won't be going back to the old way!
I love being treated like a queen and having my bidding done promptly and being waited on hand and foot. Who wouldn't?
I have read a book by Elise Sutton [Female Domination] and, while some of it is informative, I couldn't treat my slave hubby with the disrespect some do. After all, a happy slave is a productive slave. While I love having my feet and legs massaged, I would never expect him to lick my boots. That would be treating him disrespectfully.
As his reward for good service he gets and gives great loving. That part of our relationship is wonderful now because I don't feel tired all the time.
I have always been fairly bossy so taking on the role of queen was not difficult, but I am still learning. So nice to read your blogs and nice to know there are other women out there enjoying the power. The benefits are awesome!
Friday, February 13, 2015
(Previous posts in this series: Carrie & Geoff—Part 1: Sharing Their New FLRLifestyle, l Dec. 13, 2014, and Carrie & Geoff—Part 2: FLR Ring Ceremony, Dec. 22, 2014)
Carrie and I have made the three-month mark in our Female Led Relationship, and it is only getting better and better. Barely a day goes by that my Queen doesn’t stimulate me to a near orgasm, and I give my Queen an orgasm either with my mouth or my hands. I’m still amazed at how intense my feelings are for my Queen; they seem to be growing stronger every day. Each time I see my gold glans ring,* I am reminded of my vows of commitment and submission.
I have just finished reading FemaleDomination by Elise Sutton, and I would recommend it to anyone interested in FLR as it is a wealth of information. My Queen is now reading it and is currently preparing me to receive her strap-on by gradually stretching me by using her finger(s). It’s hard to describe the feelings as you are held captive by your Queen and stimulated and aroused to such a high level. Just the other night I was made to lie across my Queen’s lap while she spanked me and then worked on my bottom with her fingers, which bought me to a huge climax (with, of course, the permission of my Queen). The next night I was ordered into the sixty-nine position and, while my Queen held me in her mouth, she alternated between spanking me and entering me with her fingers. I have read about subspace, and I think I might have been very close to it.
After my Queen has finished reading Female Domination, I want to read it again and underline the quotes, ideas, and passages that appealed or had an effect on me, and then she will reread it and underline the things that interest her. Then we can compare our notes and establish goals to develop our common interests, and even expand into new areas interest.
All I know for sure is that that with each passing day my commitment to serve my Queen gets stronger and stronger, and my level of submission becomes deeper. I still kick myself for not finding this lifestyle earlier in my life.
When I think about the stupid “macho” lifestyle, it is obvious why it does not produce high levels of happiness. For example, when the male sex drive builds up, he seeks sex from his partner. Most likely his partner has low sex drive because she is tired and could have feelings of resentment, because of the lack of help around the house. The male reaches a climax quickly because he is feeling horny, which leaves his partner half aroused, frustrated, with semen to clean from her vagina, and no one to cuddle with or talk to as the male is fast asleep. Anyone can see this is a sure-fire recipe to romance and endless happiness—not! I really thought we had a very happy marriage for all those years, but compared with what we now have—well, frankly, there is no comparison. My Queen tells me she has never been so happy, and it is my wish and commitment to spend the rest of my life serving her to keep her happy.
Carrie & geoff
(* Mea Culpa from Mark Remond: Several readers had asked what kind of ring Geoff gave to Carrie in the ultra-romantic FLR Ring Ceremony described in their second posting. I must plead guiltly here to deliberate obfuscation: Geoff had written quite plainly that it was a “glans ring,” which, as you can read online, is “a variety of male genital jewelry worn around the head of the penis” and which can render the penis head more sensitive to touch. I changed Geoff’s straightforward description into a “ring to be worn by submissive husbands (or boyfriends) in a certain very intimate and private place (as to exactly where I’ll leave to the reader’s fertile imagination).” I apologize belatedly to Geoff and Carrie and to my readers for having been a bit prudish and old-fashioned.)
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
In earlier posts i have noted various holidays that are wonderful opportunities for men to buy gifts for the Women in their lives. Birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Mother-in-Law’s Birthday and so on, all merit carefully selected, quality gifts. But in terms of what Women really want there are far more important days coming up that the modern man must celebrate. These special days provide us males an opportunity to reflect on Women’s issues and Feminism, to make efforts to accelerate the progress of Women, and to hasten the downfall of patriarchy. Our congregation and Women’s Center observe the following as times for reflection, commitment, and action:
Feminist Susan B. Anthony Birthday – February 15
March – Women’s History Month
International Women’s Day – March 9
Women’s Equality Day – August 26
Feminist Elizabeth Cady Stanton Birthday – November 12
There are a great many activities that take place around these events in which men can – and should! - participate:
§ Participate in rallies and marches aimed at highlighting the inequities in Women’s pay, career opportunities, and so on. Real men will be active participants and very visible at such events.
§ Listen to and learn from lectures and readings on Feminist topics
§ Attend a Women’s art exhibit
§ Do a reading at a Feminist event
§ Write a letter to the editor of a local paper supporting a Feminist issue or position
§ Learn a craft or domestic skill by taking a class or workshop; it’s a wonderful opportunity for men to cross gender lines – not to worry, Women welcome us on their side of the line but a word of warning – once you cross you may find it hard to go back!
§ Commit to read six Feminist books over the next year; discuss them with Women, including how each book has changed your perspectives. In my case Nancy and Her Mother routinely assign me “required reading” on a variety of topics ranging from Feminist literature to romance novels. I have to discuss the readings, articulate the Women’s positions in each of the readings, and cite how the reading changed my perspective.
§ In celebration of the aforementioned days send cards with a personal note and perhaps a small gift to Women-friends. Use cursive writing and Sue demands my using decidedly Feminine matching stationery. The latter shows my willingness to adopt something from Women’s side of the gender line and it conveys my belief that Women, their views, and tastes are mainstream.
§ Support and work for Female Candidates for public office; we need more
§ Listen to a Women’s discussion group or lecture on Feminist issues, wage inequity, for example. As Nancy says, men should “Shut up and listen” - we men can learn a lot by listening to Women. Take what you heard into discussions with male friends and advocate the Women’s point of view.
§ Take a Women’s Studies class for some formal immersion in Feminism – men will learn a lot!
§ Perform service at a Women’s Center; the progressive gentlemen in our social circle do this weekly; sign up to volunteer to do whatever is needed and make a real contribution.
§ Donate time and money – Men make more than Women and should be happy to give their patriarchy-derived surplus to Women and to Women’s causes. Nancy has determined that men earn at least 25% more than Women so, to level the playing field, She demands that 25% of my earnings be given over to Women (She and Sue are a great place to start!) and Women’s issues.
Our Women’s Center collects and distributes money throughout the year for the benefit of Women and Women’s activities. Men are expected to generously donate and are charged fees for participating in the Centers activities or just to volunteer. Monies are anonymously distributed to Women for a variety of purposes. Men often commit to giving over the course of a year; for example, two men are paying for a Woman’s cell phone and data plan for a year. Two other men have committed to donate $2,400 – a mere $100 per month each – to a Women’s studies program at a local college. Where’s their $100 a month coming from – well, they’ve given up trips to the local bar and will instead work at the Center one evening a week.
Housekeeping – men at the Center volunteer to regularly do housework, repair work, etc., for Women who want their help. The men’s work is done under the strict supervision of the Center’s staff. Men taking the Housekeeping 101 do a practicum of housework for Women that spans many weeks. Even after they have completed Housekeeping 101, men continue to do the practicums as a personal commitment to think globally but act locally.
Get involved with Women’s issues and initiatives at work. Mentor and support Women. Support Women for promotions even though doing so may limit your opportunities. After all, you’re likely not as well qualified as Women now in the workforce; they are coming into the workplace in greater numbers and bringing impeccable credentials. They’re going to run things sooner than later so get used to it and get on board!
In many companies vacation time is determined by seniority; unfortunately, men have most seniority and so more vacation. To right this inequity, a few of us have given back vacation days to be placed in a “vacation bank” from which extra days will be awarded to Female staff.
§ Accept and support Women in leadership positions at work; defer to them; accept your subordinate position.
§ Encourage Women to adopt a leadership posture by deferring to them – at work – at home – wherever!
§ Recognize that Women-only activities at work – seminars, classes, trips, mentoring, etc – aren’t discriminatio’! Rather, these are necessary to allow Women to participate on a level playing field.
§ Make treating Women – ALL WOMEN! – with courtesy and respect a habit - “Yes, Ma’am!”
§ Recognize the innate superiority of Women and the inequities and exploitation that patriarchy promotes.
Why is all this important? Well, despite their moral, intellectual, and emotional superiority, Women are underrepresented in leadership positions and still undercompensated. Gender equality will make society better!
Friday, February 6, 2015
(I conclude my revisit of the provocative posts and comments of Beckie Sue (from four years ago) with a compilation of her thoughts on Female Led Families. What follows, I believe, helped inspire Ms. Amanda and Ms. Jenn in formulating their own matriarchal family guidelines.—Mark Remond)
I think it is important to make clear that we are not just a "female led marriage," but we are a "female led family."
Our daughters are always having their friends over. They are all aware that the girls’ father is the one who does all the housework. They are there when he comes home from work and starts right in on dinner, or perhaps the laundry, while I am there reading, or enjoying myself on our deck. Our daughters’ friends are right there and hear me tell him to do a certain chore and he never argues.
Their brother is always there as well. He is very obedient to his sisters "requests." They usually ask him "will you..." but I know that it is really an order. Their friends are comfortable in telling him what to do as well.
In being a female led home, our daughters’ girlfriends know it is more than I, it is my daughters who rule as well. The girls have had many discussions on female superiority, and all of them are in agreement that as females they are superior. I have overheard them talk about having boys worship them, and wanting to be goddesses. They are learning.
The Best Interests of our Daughters
Do we really think the interests of our son are less important than the interests of our daughters? That the opinions, desires and hobbies of our daughters are more important than his? Just because they are female and he is male?
Throughout history, girls were taught that men were more important, that the goals of men were more important than their own. In a female led home, girls need to learn to lead males. And, yes, because they are female, they need to understand the importance of seeking hobbies and activities that will fulfill them.
As a male, their brother understands that sometimes he needs to forgo his own interests so that his sisters may have the opportunity to pursue theirs.
If he was always allowed to pursue whatever he wanted, often the girls would not be able to enjoy what they want. Brothers need to learn the importance of always placing the female first, helping her become the woman she can be.
So, yes, in my view the importance of a brother’s interests are less important than the interests of his sisters; they need to be for girls to be able to lead in their home, and society.
More Thoughts on Female Led Homes
I find that female led households are not as controversial today as they used to be. I am sure that many (if not most) homes are female led, though most are reluctant to admit it. Women are finding it more natural for them and their husbands for the woman to lead in their home.
Sons and daughters both need both parents as role models for their lives. Our son sees his father doing all the work around the home, all the housework as well as all the yard work, mechanical and maintenance chores, etc. My husband understands the importance of serving women so the females are able to pursue their more important interests. My husband has taught our son the importance of obeying not only his mother, but also his sisters.
Our daughters see the benefits of a female led family. Like their mother, they are learning how to lead a family. They don't have that authority yet but they can see how a family is closer when females are in charge.
There are no problems with a daughter being in charge of her father, as long as she is an adult (out of high school). If she has been raised in a female led family, she is qualified. As a mature adult female, she will not lose any respect for her father by being charge of him; on the contrary, this relationship will bring them closer.
Our daughters are still in their teens. When I have gone out for the day, their father is in charge and they know to obey him. But they are permitted to remind him of things. Recently I found my husband watching TV instead of getting his chores done. (He is not permitted to watch any TV for this reason.) I told our oldest daughter (with father’s knowledge) to keep an eye on him and remind him the chores need to be finished by his 10 p.m. bedtime. He admits having her present helps him focus on all his work and keep him from breaking any of his rules.
He has a great deal of respect for our daughters because of their self-confidence and experience in learning to lead in the home. They are all aware that, as adults, the females will always lead the males.
A girl should be allowed to tell (not ask) her father what to do. Many comments have been made about how a daughter would lose respect for her father if she was allowed to boss him around. That is incorrect. Daughters lose respect for their fathers when their fathers are bossy to them, when their fathers act better than their mother. A girl’s respect toward her father only grows when she sees how he can be obedient to the ladies in his life. She learns respect for her father when he cleans her room and washes her clothes. Our daughters highly respect their father at supper when their brother and father stand and wait for the girls to sit and allow the females to fill their plates and start eating before being permitted to start their own dinner.
A mother is the one who needs to teach her daughters how to lead, what is right, what to expect from men. A daughter needs to learn to lead both brothers and father, through the eyes of her mother. Yes, a girl will make mistakes, sometimes hurting the males in the family. But they must accept it, and she will learn through the experience.
I never liked the idea that some men are submissive. Men are by nature obedient. Through school (in the past), sports, military, and jobs they are required to be obedient; much more so than women. It is their nature to be obedient and to work. It is the nature of the female to be sexual/sensual and to direct the men in their lives. If daughters don't learn this in their home, they will have a hard time when they get older. And if sons don't learn obedience in their home, and from watching their father, they will not grow up properly.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
(Continuing the reprint of a two-part guest post, this one from September 24, 2010, by “Beckie Sue,” who describes, in these excerpts from a series of emails to me, her leading role as a wife in an FLR and matriarch of a female led family.—Mark Remond)
Thank you for this post [“Au876 on Financial Control, Part 1"]. It has given me refreshing thoughts. I referred this post to a couple of my friends to read and consider implementing some of the ideas.
I agree that financial control for the wife is the most important part of the marriage and solidifies her (my) control. This was hard for me to manage at first, but now I would not have it any other way.
I opened my own checking account a few years ago when I went back to work after having our last child. After reading this I thought it a good idea to close our joint account my husband pays bills out of. I talked with him and told him I would like for him to deposit his paycheck into my private account. I will start to pay all the bills and he will not see anything of his paycheck. He has a debit card he uses when he wants to get something for himself; he will no longer have access to that. He had questions and doubts, but I told him the decision is final and permanent.
After that conversation, my stomach was churning, maybe with some fear, but mostly with excitement. Total financial control over your husband is many times more powerful than control over everything else. I walked away with a real high, like on drugs.
I will not be giving him any allowance like others do. He has a blue-collar job and brown bags it every day, so he doesn't need money for lunches. He is to have $10 in his wallet if anything comes up, and needs to tell me when it does so I can replenish it. If he needs to buy anything for the house or yard, he is to ask for my debit card. I am sure I will have to make minor adjustments to this as they come up.
Of course he wasn't happy when I told him of this. But afterward he said his only happiness is to see me happy. Which I am. When done, I told him to return to his chores. It gives me “butterflies” in my belly when I tell him that.
Thank you for your for sharing my story with your wife. I felt uncomfortable sending it to a man, but most female led relationship blogs by women are too much kink, dominant, male hating, and I don't want to be involved in that.
My story is “perfect-world”-based, of course. Are our boys always obedient and worshipful? Yeaaaa...right! As they say, life happens. They need to be reminded who they are. The way our daughters and I act sometimes, my husband and son must wonder what is so superior about females. Female superiority is natural, but we have a lot to learn about it.
Women are advancing in the workplace in pay and promotions. But most wives would still prefer not to have to work. I work part-time a few hours a week mostly for the interaction of the people there. My husband earns enough that I don't have to work. Would your wife prefer to not have to work full-time? I would encourage you to get a part-time job weekends so she could “kick up her feet” and do more for herself. Unfortunately in our economy today, too many wives have to work, though many find their jobs fulfilling.
I know how your wife feels with an egalitarian nature. A wife who understands female superiority means realizing your husband is inferior, and women have a hard time thinking of their husbands in a negative term like inferior. But the facts I laid out for you in my story give no other option. Once your wife sees herself as superior, that will allow her to accept your worship. Most husbands today understand, even if subconsciously, that they are inferior to their wives.
You say my husband is a lucky man. He has to obey even when he disagrees. He comes home from a hard day’s work (where they don't have A/C!) and, after taking a shower, starts supper, cleans after supper and does other chores. He is no longer allowed to watch TV (takes his focus away from focusing on my desires and takes too long to get it back), has to be in bed by 10 p.m. (works 6:30 a.m. – 3 p.m.). After working all week, never sees or has access to any of the money he earns. He has accepted all this to worship me. He admits lucky is the last thing he is. He does it for me. I am the lucky one.
I can enjoy myself doing something I love and come home to a hot-cooked meal. The guys wait till us girls start to eat and they take what is left over. I have the evening to enjoy with the kids, watch something on TV, or go out with some girlfriends and come home late and not have to explain anything to him. I can sleep late and wake up to fresh coffee, he has to put on another pot when he leaves for work. I can spend money on whatever I want (within my budget). He occasionally has to work a Saturday. That allows me to buy something special that I show him so he knows what his overtime bought me; he specifically requested I do this. I don't want to discuss our sex life, but I pursue it when I want it, not him. And I am worshiped. “Lucky” is not the same at all as “worshiped.” No, I don't consider men in an FLR to be lucky. To be a woman knowing she is superior is special.
You have a good site, but you need to have female perspectives of what it is like to be worshiped.
Yes, you may use my (real-life) story for your post, as long as you change the ages a little, and any other personal information I may have in there. And feel free to share with your wife, this is more important for all women to understand.
I can understand how you have a hard time with being consistent, you were raised in a society where women were considered equal to men and were expected to share or do more of the chores than their husbands. I don't think you have accepted female superiority as a fact yet, though you want to. If you did and truly worshiped your wife, you would have no problem after you came home from work and started in on dinner and your chores. You need to set a good example for your children, and your wife will quickly accept her role to be worshiped.
In the past, men were always required to work 12 hours a day in hard labor 6 days a week. Farmers worked in their fields and barns from early morning till late at night 7 days a week to provide for their wives and children. You have the comfort of your wife's home to continue your work before you need to go to bed. Why are men in our society reluctant to do their job?
Hopefully, what I have written will help get people to understand and accept female superiority as a fact of life. One point I would like to add. The last few years, women have been striving for equality in all things. We are not equal, we are superior. There are a few roles in life women should not be permitted to be involved in. These would be safety forces (police and fire) and military combat. It is the role of men to always protect women. In dangerous situations, men will put others at risk to protect a woman…
Ask those men on the Titanic who encouraged women to enter the lifeboats, knowing the kind of death that awaited them in the icy waters. Men understood the importance of women and protecting them at the cost of their own lives. A century ago, men understood and followed term “women and children first.”
In my circle of friends, others husbands also serve their wives in various ways. All are marriages where the wife is in control. We have a couple of friends who want the arrangements we have but their husbands are uncooperative. Unfortunately they have chosen to avoid us when possible.
Yes, these friends are aware that my husband is the one who does all the housework; others share the housework, or do most of it themselves. We (girls) have discussed this often and they have brought it up to their husbands. Their husbands agree they need to do more of the housework so their wives are able to spend more time in more fulfilling pursuits.
Though all agree they are in control of their marriage, they are amazed at my husband’s obedience. None of the husbands criticize him; over the past few years, they have learned to be more obedient to their wives.
I have been in the company of some when the wife gave direction to her husband about what housework to do as we were leaving her house, so my husband and I have been a big influence of them.
(Next: Beckie Sue on Female Led Families)
Thursday, January 22, 2015
(This guest article by “Beckie Sue,” from Sept.21, 2010, was perhaps the most popular and controversial ever to appear on this blog. It was taken from an email in which “Beckie Sue” related, carefully and persuasively, the gradual steps that led her ultimately to embrace the concept of female superiority. It was only because of this realization, she explained to me, that she was finally able to understand and fully accept her husband’s desire to worship her as a goddess. Beckie Sue’s “conversion story” affected many readers (including me), and sparked a heated debate (check out the comments section of the original posting). Her additional thoughts about female led families also inspired Ms. Amanda from the UK and Ms. Jenn from the Netherlands to write guests posts for the Wife Worship blog on female authority in the family. All in all, I decided, Beckie Sue's thoughts merited a second exposure to blog readers.—Mark Remond)
Dear Mark Remond,
Thank you for hosting this site on wife worship. Being worshiped is not something I, nor any normal female, would want or desire. It is a male fantasy. But I learned something along the way.
I have a wonderful husband and marriage. He is not what I would consider submissive. He has always been the head of our home. We made joint decisions, but he was my protector. I was a stay-at-home-mom for many years. I did all the chores around the home. What I liked about him was he always wanted to help clean the dishes with me—some together time. He wanted to help with the laundry or cleaning at times because the children kept me busy during the day, and he thought I needed to kick up my feet in the evening even though he worked hard all day, too. He often brought me little gifts to time to surprise me.
He told me a couple of times he just enjoyed worshiping me and wanted to continue to court me like when we dated. I loved his devotion, but WORSHIP ME? I was not better than he, I was his equal. I was not worthy of his worship!
From the time we were married, we believed in equality, making joint decisions. Often when we were not in agreement, we would argue. I always wondered how equality is supposed to work when two people disagree. But after arguing, almost without fail, any time I thought a different way, he would go along with what I thought. I began to realize even though he was the head of the family, I was the one really making all the decisions. I considered telling him that I would make decisions from then on, but I was afraid of damaging our relationship and that he would be upset or hurt. Or never ask me my opinion again. The thought that I would make him OBEY ME was never thought of.
I never wanted to call myself a feminist, but I did believe women were to be equal to men in everything. They should have equal pay, girls should have equal opportunities in school, women should be equal in politics and government, etc.
* A WSJ article recently showed younger women are now paid MORE than their male peers.
* Girls are exceeding boys in school. Almost 90% of valedictorians are girls, a majority of students in spelling bees are girls, college students are now almost 60% female and growing.
* Recently another U.S. Supreme Court member was added, making three females. Since this is a lifetime post, we have to wait till other male members quit or die, but I am sure in time it will be a majority (if not 100%) female. More women are being elected to office every year.
Women are only wanting equality with what men have always had. What is that strange thing I mentioned? Whenever we rise up and become equal, we always continue past equality! These facts, and many more, prove we are not equal to men. Females are superior in every aspect of our lives.
* Females are superior physically. We have a much more complex body. We have a complex reproductive system. We live longer than men. We are physically much more attractive, so that men desire us, court us, and seek us.
* Females are much more complex emotionally.
* Females are much more advanced intellectually and have more intuition (understanding without apparent effort, a keen and quick insight).
* Females are far better at relationships. They can express themselves to their friends, they can have several friends, male and female. Males have a hard time making friends and can never share their feelings.
Women are still thinking they need to be equal, and that being superior to men is wrong. But as I related in our marriage, equality is impossible. One side will eventually become superior and the other inferior.
But what woman wouldn’t want to have a marriage where what she said was final, where her husband would obey her and desire her? What wife wouldn’t want a home where the housework, cleaning, laundry, washing dishes, scrubbing the bathroom, were her husband’s job, where she would be free to pursue more fulfilling interests? How many would enjoy those more fulfilling pursuits during the day while he is at work earning money for her to enjoy? What wife wouldn’t love to have control of his paycheck and manage all the finances? What female wouldn’t love to be worshiped as a goddess?
Most women can’t see far enough that they are superior. They have had to submit to men through all history, and they can only hope for equality. Men have had the upper hand even though they are inferior and they know it, they instinctively prevented women from being equal because men know that women’s superiority would then overtake all aspects of their life. If men only could understand that female superiority would be the ideal for them. Men are created for worship. Women are created to receive worship.
As your site shows, there are many men who desire to worship women. Most men worship women in one way or another without necessarily using the term. But how many women say they want to worship a man? None that I know. In order for females to be worshiped, they naturally have to be superior to men. If we are to be worshiped, are we not goddesses? Who would ever call a man a “god”? That would be blasphemous.
I believe our society is moving quickly now to female superiority in all areas. Yes, all females are superior; they are born that way, it is not something they learn—though we need to learn that we are superior. Few women understand that. Just as the church teaches that we are born sinful because man and woman sinned in the Garden of Eden, this is something we find hard to comprehend. It is hard for women to understand how we are born superior, it is just in our nature. Men understand that much better.
But not all females are to be worshiped. This is for marriage. The husband is to “love, worship, and obey” his wife. Her protection, her well-being, her desires, her pleasure, and her comfort are his primary concerns, and he would, if called upon to do so, lay down his life for her.
So where are we at today? A few years ago, my husband and I sat down and I told him if I was going to make the decisions, I demanded he obey me without question. Do I make mistakes? More than I wish. But my husband takes the blame for them and the punishment; this is his worship of his goddess!
Housework: He does almost all of it. It is his job, to be expected of him. I do not micromanage him, or stand over him telling him what to do. He knows his chores and does them well. I offered to help with some, but he told me I didn’t need to bother with mundane housework when I should be pursuing more fulfilling things. I work part time 3 days a week and enjoy my work and the people I work with. I work with a community theater 1-2 times a week, I was in theater a lot in college and it’s good to be involved again. I am with the kids in the evening helping with homework. Once in a while I will take our girls out to the mall or someplace while my husband and son do the dishes and other chores.
Finances: With my part-time job, I opened my private checking account. Since then I wondered why I needed two accounts, and recently decided to close our joint checking account. My husband now deposits his paycheck into my account. He is to keep $10 on him at all times and let me know if he spends any so I can give him more. He gets no allowance. After closing the one account I have started paying bills and managing all finances. We use MS Money so he still doesn’t have access to any money himself.
Children: We have 2 daughters 16 and 11, and a son 14. Any expression of wife worship is hidden from them. But as a family we do show female superiority. My husband and son both open doors for us, and both stand whenever my daughters or I enter a room and remain till we are seated. The same holds for dinner; they stand till we are seated and allow us to fill our plates and start eating before they fill their plates. Our son helps his father clean the table and dries the dishes. A few months ago, they discussed if our son would want to do something special for his sisters to show his awareness of their female superiority. He chose to make their beds and straighten their rooms every morning. The girls are not allowed to tell him what to do, but may ask him politely to do something or get her something; he is not required to obey but he takes their requests as an order and still obeys. His father has been a good mentor.
I know this has been a long letter. But I felt the need to write it out and tell someone, it has been building up in me. Every family is different with different ways to do things. Everything here sounds like we have it down perfect, but we have problems and daily issues come up to deal with. But female superiority is only natural and is showing up more every day. Someday it will be accepted by everyone.
(To be continued in Part Two)
Friday, January 16, 2015
An important gift-giving day is less than a month away, and most progressive gentlemen have already purchased and elegantly wrapped an appropriate gift for their Wife. Yes, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and She is definitely expecting something – something nice! She isn’t necessarily expecting something expensive since She most likely your spending money, but She is expecting a gift that shows you’ve denied yourself in order to give Her something special. Such a sacrificial gift is a nice way to worship Her and to thank Her for letting you into Her life; for letting you serve Her. Unlike Christmas, gifts on Valentine’s Day go one way only – from the man to the Woman. She’s not going to buy you anything, so don’t expect something – it’s better to give – to Her – than to receive.
What do you get a Goddess for Valentine’s Day? Traditional gifts work well:
§ Lingerie or a special peignoir, but don’t expect Her to wear it for you...
§ Jewelry – of good quality only! If you can’t buy quality, don’t buy jewelry! The elegance and quality of a piece must compliment the Woman. Once i mistakenly gave my Mother-in-law, Sues an inappropriate piece of jewelry as a gift. i was derided for it and had it thrown at me. It was a long time and many gifts before Sue forgave me for what She considered an insult. Don’t offend a Goddess!
§ A Trip to the Spa – at least a half-day visit – for Her and a girlfriend. Offer to drive them there and pick them up afterward, perhaps driving them to a dinner to cap off their day of pampering. Incidentally, this is to be a “Girl’s day” – you’re a chauffeur, not a participant!
While Valentine’s Day is important, it’s only one day a year. Gift-giving is year-around, providing numerous formal and informal gift-giving events. In our Matriarchal family these events demand elegantly wrapped gifts with a handwritten note or card. The following family holidays are opportunities for me to give gifts to the Women in the family and show deference and respect:
§ Wife’s birthday
§ Mother-in-law’s birthday
§ Mother’s Day
§ Aunts’ birthdays
§ Sister-in-law birthdays
§ Mother-in-law’s Day – fouth Sunday in October
§ Grandmother’s Day – first Sunday after Labor Day
Gift-giving is an important way to worship the Woman in your life, and the progressive gentlemen budgets accordingly. i set aside about 60% of my allowance for gift-giving throughout the year. i do housekeeping and borrow from Sue to get money for extra special gifts for Nancy, too. And gift-giving isn’t just for Christmas, Valentine’s Day or Her birthday! A progressive gentleman will give his Wife numerous “no-occasion” gifts throughout the year. Why? Because She’s a Goddess! Isn’t that reason enough?
Consider doing the following:
§ Bring Her flowers – a nice bouquet is $15, and She’ll love it; Nancy gets a bouquet every few weeks, just because.
§ Send Her flowers – Women love having flowers delivered at work; i do this for Nancy every two months or so.
§ Get Her something She enjoys – a bottle of wine, fine chocolates, and so on; do this every six weeks or so. And don’t expect Her to share the wine or chocolates with you.
§ Buy Her something pretty – Again lingerie comes to mind. i’ve bought Nancy lingerie and hosiery. Every Woman likes a gift-wrapped box of fancy panties, hand-picked by Her man. Nylons and pantyhose come to mind, too. Get Her a new shade, a seam, or a texture. Oh, and don’t expect Her to wear any of these things for you – doing so is Her prerogative.
§ Send Her to the spa, as mentioned above.
§ Get Her something from your travels – traveling on business? Many airport shops have quality jewelry and accessories so you don’t have to come home empty-handed!
§ Buy something out of the ordinary – i found a pair of very sexy clear Lucite platform heels for Nancy and Her Mother. i wasn’t sure how they’d react but they absolutely loved them! So much so that Nancy called Her Girlfriends for an impromptu trip to the club so She could wear them in public. Sue called Her Girlfriends over for drinks just to show off Her platforms. i didn’t expect the Women to wear these shoes for me but they love them so much theyoften wear them around the house, so it’s an added bonus for me! Nancy and Sue NEVER say “thank you” for a gift – why should They? They’re entitled to gifts! But They’ve told me numerous times how much they love the shoes! What more could I ask than to know i’ve pleased the Women in my life in some small way!
Hopefully this will be useful and spur you to provide your Wife thoughtful gifts as a way of showing your adoration of Her. There are other occasions as well, but they demand a very different gift from progressive gentlemen. We’ll discuss these in a future post.