Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Au876: A Husband’s Place Is in the Kitchen

(Editor’s Note: Two earlier collections of wife-worship postings from “Au876” stirred things up a bit here. What follows will probably be less provocative, but focuses on an often-overlooked aspect of wife worship—namely, the husband gradually taking over meal planning, cooking and serving, not just dish-washing afterward. As you will see, Au was a strong proponent of this, as much as surrendering financial control. All these excerpts were from Lady Misato’s original Yahoo! Husbands’ forum, which is no longer extant; her current husbands’ forum, however, is available on Facebook. — Mark Remond).

Au876: A Husband’s Place Is in the Kitchen

Without being a wimp (and again I think it takes a real man to serve his wife), I would suggest you proceed to serve your wife in every possible way. If you don't already, learn to cook. You will be surprised how quickly your wife will let you take on that chore. Wash the dishes, clean the kitchen after each meal.

If you are not cooking, learn how NOW. Plan the menu, buy the food, set the
table, cook the meal, clean the dishes.

Meal Prep 101

Nowadays my wife tells me what her schedule is every Sunday for the upcoming week (as far as she knows). I then know to have her dinner ready (I do all the cooking) to fit her schedule. After we eat, I wash the dishes and clean the kitchen. She also posts her schedule on our kitchen calendar so I won't forget. I don't remember what it was like when she cooked or did anything in the kitchen or around the house.

The Rewards of Cooking

Cooking is a major job and a major source of self-confidence. It makes you feel good about yourself when you can put a decent meal on the table for her. I would highly recommend you make this a goal. She will have to help you, teach you and supervise you to begin with. Tell her you want to learn how to cook and you want her to teach you. Listen, watch and learn from her. Help her at every meal as you slowly begin to take over while she watches. Don't be fancy or scared to fail. You can always call for takeout.

Last night after dinner (which I cooked), my wife told me I needed to make a dish for her to take to work today. Her office was having some kind of celebration for lunch. So I did that while she watched some TV. This afternoon she brought the dish back (dirty but empty) and said everyone told her how good it was. Several of the ladies wanted me to send them the recipe. That made me feel good. I love it when someone likes my cooking.

There is no doubt in my mind that preparing and serving all the meals is one of the best ways for me to show my Wife my appreciation and worship of her. Of course I don't have any say in the matter but even if she told me I didn't have to prepare the meals I would do so anyway.

My wife just happens to think a man is better suited to keeping house and she certainly doesn't like to cook (though she is an excellent cook).

Recipe-Swapping Hubbies

…That was a great idea. I made a copy of the recipe and will be trying it. I have been doing all the cooking for several years now. I will try to pass along some things I use but they are all very basic. Thanks a lot. The best way to please a woman is to cook her good meals. Or at least one of the best ways.

…To give you an idea of how stupid I am, I don't even know what falafel is. I am always so scared of messing up and not having a good dinner for my wife. She encourages me to branch out. Now and then she even leaves a recipe out for me to try. I keep a couple of frozen pizzas in the freezer as a backup. I do look forward to trying the fettucine, probably next week.

..Thanks, I make a pretty mean meat loaf. In fact I have several I make and my wife likes them all. Don't get me wrong. My wife says I am a good cook. It’s just that I am always uncertain of how things will turn out. When I started cooking several years ago, my wife was my teacher. She started by having me help her prepare dishes and explaining what she was doing. We progressed to her supervising while I prepared the various dishes. It wasn't long before she just sat in the den while I cooked and she was available for questions and etc. Finally she said it was time for me to be on my own. This meant I had to plan the meal, shop for the groceries and have dinner on the table for her according to whatever schedule she was on.

She still gives me hints now and then and is always willing to answer my questions. I guess for the last three or four years I have done all the cooking to include even fixing her lunch when we are here doing the day. She gets involved some when we have company. She wants to know what my menu is or she may give me a menu to have or just make adjustments to the one I have. Then she tells me to call on her if I need help. I pride myself on not having to call on her because we when we all sit down to eat, I want her to brag on me and say I didn't need any help. That is just the male ego in me I guess. Still, sometimes I have to call on her.

His Favorite Cookbook

…It sounds to me like you are on the way too. You have some great insight on how to proceed. I need to start trying more dishes myself. For awhile I was trying a new dish every week or so but then slacked off. You are right about the book, The Joy of Cooking. My wife gave me the book a few years back. It is now well read, marked and re-read. I need to get that book on manners.

I strongly endorse the book The Joy of Cooking also. My wife gave it to me several years ago. It tells you everything about everything and I use it all the time. Just to make sure I know what is in it, I read it from cover to cover twice. Not deep reading, just revie- type reading to know its contents.

Just a hint as you are using the book. Make notes beside whatever you tried. Did she like it or not? Would she have preferred more of this or that added or taken out? Did she eat seconds? Always watch her reaction to what you serve and try to improve upon it next time. The notes will be a big help.

Christmas Cooking (& Other Holiday Chores)

My wife goes through the Christmas card list. She makes a notation by any name she wants to include a personal note with. I get the cards ready and take care of the rest (expect the personal notes). I always do all the cooking and cleaning up. However, I am not good not nearly as good at baking as she is. She has a special pie and cake she bakes herself. I will bake cookies for a cookie swap she goes to and will try to bake some other things she wants. But I won't bake anything unless she is close by to help me if needed. We still do a stocking for each other. Last year my wife put all kinds of pedicure items in my stocking. I didn't have to buy anything for months. I have mentioned twice recently what a good stocking I got last year. (hint, hint). I had all kinds of makeup items she uses in hers.

Out of the Kitchen and the Closet

I will recount as best I can how the soup recipe thing happened. There were three of us couples at the table eating. The hostess served the soup first. My wife and the other lady (let’s call her Jane) both commented on how good it was. Jane said she would like to get the recipe. The hostess said sure, I will give it to you after we eat. After the meal we were still sitting at the table talking. Mostly the women were talking (that is not rare, is it?). Jane got up, got paper and pen from her purse and said ,"Let me get that recipe now before I forget it.” The hostess started to give it to her. My wife interrupted. "Au, don't you think you ought to get that too so you can fix it for me?” She told the hostess to wait a second. Then she told me to bring her purse to her. I did. She got some paper and a pen out, handed it to me, turned to the hostess and said "OK, Au is ready to write it down."

The hostess gave the recipe from memory as Jane and I wrote it down. The hostess said, "It is really good served with ham and cheese rolls.” My wife turned to me and said, “You can serve it with those good party rolls you made for me to take to work,” Jane said, “Au, I am impressed. You made stuff for (wife) to take to work?” I admit I was feeling a bit shy at this point. So I replied in a somewhat kidding way to Jane, “Heck, I do everything, isn't that what husbands are suppose to do?” Jane said, “Why, heck yes.” The hostess turned to her husband and said, “You could learn a lot from Au.”
My wife then said, “He's a good cook,” then led the conservation in a different direction. That is all that was said. However, when we were all standing at the door about to depart their house, my wife asked me, “Do you know where you put the soup recipe?”
“Yes, it is in my billfold.”
“Well, you won't have a hard time finding it there.” That was a joke the others didn't catch because she knows full well there is little to nothing else there. I never got the feeling anyone felt awkward. I was starting to feel that way just a tad but there is no way I would ever challenge my wife or argue with her in public. It was just natural for me to do as she said. And she is the one who changed the conservation to another topic.
Sunday night my wife had an old girlfriend over for dinner. She "suggested" I cook one of her favorite chicken dishes. Her friend got here about 4 p.m. We talked a few minutes and then I put out some cheese, snacks and wine for us. I was about to join them when my wife spoke up and said she would like to eat by 7 p.m. It takes me about 2 hours to prepare this certain dish so I excused myself and retired to the kitchen. I checked back with them several times to see if they needed anything. I could hear them laughing and talking as I peeled veggies, cleaned chicken, prepared some side dishes, set the table and all that stuff. At almost exactly 7 p.m. I was ready. I had prepared their drinks, served their plates and lighted some candles on a centerpiece. The table looked great! When I went to the den to tell them dinner was ready my wife glanced down at her watch. I knew I had pleased her by being on time. I ate with them and everyone enjoyed the meal. After we finished our dessert, my wife said she would clean up if I wanted her to. Her friend joined in, saying she would help, too. I knew my wife did not mean that. She hasn't washed a dish in years. I told her no, she didn't need to help me, I enjoyed cleaning up. I cleared the table and cleaned up while they sat there and talked some more.
My wife was very proud of me. She bragged to her friend how I did everything around the house now and did it better than she could. Her friend has been divorced twice. She said if she could find a man like me she would never divorce him and then she teased my wife saying she had better be careful or someone would take me away from her.

Final Thoughts

I feel I am very lucky that my wife has taken control of me and demands I serve her and wait on her. It excites me to cook her meals. It excites me to wash her clothes, iron them, fold them and put them away for her. She seems to have the ability to keep me horny and longing for her all the time. This makes me want to literally jump at her commands. Sometimes when she punishes me it makes me feel like a little kid. I know I can refuse the punishment but being scared shows me the raw power she has over me and I’d do almost anything to prove to her I will do what she demands.
I mean I get sexually turned on when she scolds me, punishes me just like I do when I am slaving away to serve her in some fashion. I try to come up with new ways to show my devotion and submission all the time. But the strange thing is I do not feel unmanly in the least. I guess I truly believe the proper place for a man is to be submissive to his wife or partner and serve her in all possible ways.
I feel real good about myself. I simply love taking care of my wife and doing all I can to please and tend to her. It seems so natural.



Anonymous said...


Housework and breast cancer who knew?

BOB said...

MR Remond
With this post and the last two posts with MS Beckie, you are on a roll. Great post!

Obedient husband said...

Maybe it's just me, but I feel like sending "Thank you" notes to Mark every time he posts. Reading his first book some 18 months ago gave me the courage to "confess" to my wife all my dreams. She took it all very well..... very well indeed.
Things are different now..... she's in charge and there have been some major life changes.... all for the better.
I think Mark has been "on a roll" since January 2007 when he first posted. Thanks again Mark.

Rex said...

While we have been “on again / off again” in successfully leading a wife led marriage, I have continued to be the sole cook in the relationship. I enjoy cooking and experimenting with new dishes. Last Christmas my wife gave me some quality cookware as presents. I recently cooked for some guests who made the comment that I was like a wife to Sharon. I protested to protect our secret but I was also proud to be noticed for my good service to Sharon.

Anonymous said...

Can someone tell us the best site where we can find a nice sissy apron for a husband? Something with a WLM saying or photo of a husband serving his wife? My wife likes me to wear a tie in the back apron with my panties when I do the housework, ironing, cooking, etc. I have a yellow flower one presently but it needs replacing. Thanks.

Obedient husband said...


or you can "create an apron" on

www.zazzle.com with anything you want on it.

Billy said...

You are so right it is only Natural for You to feel that way about serving Your wife. It is as it should be my friend.

ALL HERS said...

What can ever be better than to serve your wife 24/7. We both were able to retire early, her before me, but now we are together nearly all of the time. The exception is when she sees her friends for tennis and lunch and myself when she allows me to go golfing (only if I have been perfect for the last week, otherwise she says NO).

I do all of the housework, laundry, ironing and most of the meal planning and preparation. She gets daily massages and orgasms about twice a week, or whenever the mood hits her. I am locked in a chastity device, the CB 6000, very secure and very comfortable. It is now "her" cock and balls, and she has told me often enough that I should not think that I am entitled to orgasms. Those days are long gone she says. It is now a privledge that must be earned over a long period of time. She has me wait a minimum of 8 weeks and thinks nothing of adding weeks or a month for punishment. She will unlock "her" cock about once a week if I have been very good and have pleased her with my attitude and behavior. She will use it as a dildo, letting me inside for a certain number of strokes and then out, cleaned off, ice pack applied and back into the chastity device. If I cum without permission, my wife has told me that I can expect 6 months wait time and then punishment time will be added as necessary. Plus she has me do corner time, an hour a day for several weeks for light punishment. Cumming without permission is more severe she says, and will result in being tied up her in walk in closet for several hours at a time throughout the 6 months, as well as corner time. I haven't cum without her permission and will always hold back the best I can. I do not want to disobey her.

The few times a year when she allows me to enter her and cum, I must pull it out before cumming and shoot into a plastic cup. When I am close I must ask her permission to cum, it is not always given, even after 3 months. Then I must finish in the cup making very sure that none gets on her belly or heaven forbid, inside her. She doesn't like to be messy afterwards, and says if she allows me to cum then I must keep her clean. Sometimes she will just play with me through my panties (yes I wear them 24/7 also), instead of entering her, and will allow me to cum in them. But then I must wear them for the day or sleep in them, depending when I came. Since I am kept chaste for 2 to 4 months you can imagine what a full load of semen I will release.

She is very attractive, dominant and sure of herself. We do have a nice bank account so she is always able to have her hair and nails done when she wants, as well as buy lots of clothing. She will tell me we are going clothes shopping for her, I must stay with her and hold what she will try on or purchase. Then I must take her for lunch, where she will order something for me like a salad, and a glass of wine and something better for her. We will do this instead of me going golfing, even when I have been good. She says it is her way of telling me she is in charge. She totally is and life is wonderful this way!

Mark Remond said...

ALL HERS -- that is as wholehearted a submissive wife-worshipping testimonial as I have ever read. No hint at all of "beware of what you wish for" hesitation. You are, indeed, all in, and ALL HERS.

ALL HERS said...


First, I would like to thank you for this wonderful and informative site you have created. It is definitely the gold standard of all of the WLM sites and blogs out there. You spend alot of time preparing this site, and we all thank you for it.

There is no "beware of what you wish for" in our WLM. As with almost all WLM's it was my idea to have my wife take control of me sexually and in everyday life. It wasn't always like this, to those who may feel we woke up one morning and begabn this. I had my own company which I recently sold for a very nice figure, and my wife worked as a elementary school teacher in a very respected and high paying district in NY. We have 2 children, so you can see that our early lives were spent mainly working and raising our son and daughter. Maybe 2 or 3 times a year we could arrange to have a day off together when the children were at school and have a "slave day". I was always her slave, never the other way around, although I suggested changing roles, but she said she was too dominant fo to be my slave. even for 1 day. I would spend the day in panties cleaning floors by hand and other housework (even though we had a cleaning person once a week). My wife would wear panties, bra, garter belt and stockings with very high heels, all black. She has 3 whips and would carry 1 all day and use it on me as I cleaned. Then I would be led into our basement and she would tie my hands to an above rafter beam. I would get teased by her as she would sometimes remove her bra and tell me that if I had cleaned very well I could be in her, but since I missed some areas I have to be punished. I would be whipped on my pantied ass for maybe 30 to 50 lashes and then left there for an hour or more to think about how to clean better the next time. I looked forward to our days and thought that someday we may do this full time.

Retirement has made that possible, although since we have relocated to Florida, she is very busy with activities in our community, as am I when she allows me. It was all my idea to take our occasional WLM to a new level. She agreed, but said that she didn't want it to be the only thing we would center on in retirement. There are weeks that it is much less intense, and there are weeks on end that it is very intense. My wife is definetly having a fun time with her role, life couldn't be better for her she says. I did offer suggestions to her on orgasm denial and T and D which she does enjoy doing. She loves to see me all worked up as I orally bring her to orgasm and then she says time for sleep. I give her so much attention, but I am careful not to "smother her", as she says, which she dislikes. She gets nightly foot rubs which sometimes send her off to sleep. She wears the sexiest night baby doll nighties to bed and around the house evenings and in the monring. That alone gets me even more horny which she loves to see. And of course, as I mentioned before, I am kept in a state of arousal almost all of the time with her allowing me the privedge of an orgasm maybe 5 or 6 times a year at most. And she has said that she feels that amount is too often. She enjoys me very horny, and does not like the down time for 2 weeks or so after I have cummed. It takes about 1 to 2weeks to get horny again, and has said that after I cum, I am less submissive. So longer horny, more time submissive. She doesn't have to deal with much recovery time.

Our WLM is wonderful, but it took time to establish. To others, start slow and just keep at it, even when she is not interested for awhile. Keep doing the housework, bring her coffee and clear and clean the dishes from her when possible. And don't forget footrubs. Five to ten minutes on each foot every night, and tell her you don't expect anything else. It is all for her pleasure. She will love it and you will see how she will want nothing else but to keep you serving her. The way it should be!

Rose/Tim said...

Mark, You are so right with your statement at the end of your post, "a proper place for a man is to be submissive to his wife..." This about says it all. If all men followed that advice the divorce rate would be cut to nil. And domestic violence would further be reduced. It would be a more docile world I feel with men submissive to their wives or partners. Before every wedding ceremony a chastity device should be given to the bride along with all of the keys. The groom should have this on and the bride should lock it in place privately immediately after the ceremony. The beginning of a wife dominant marriage with the bride deciding when and how often her new husband will be allowed intercourse. Interesting concept.

John said...

After reading the comments from ALL HERS, all I can say is that I want to come back in my next life as him. What a lucky guy to have his life so great right now. I bet his wife is hot too. A great model for WLM, I wish my wife and I could meet them.

笨蛋 said...

IS VERY GOOD..............................

Anonymous said...

Mark, thank you for another great post. I do disagree with you somewhat here though. You describe men when their wives put them in the kitchen as needing their wife's direction on every matter.

I find that most men, whether in FLR or vanilla, are often the better cooks. In the earlier years of our marriage, I did most of the meals. I had the same routine, something with beef on Monday, chicken on Tuesday, fish on Wednesday, pork on Thursday, Italian something on Friday. It was easier for planning. He usually did all the cooking on the weekends and came up with something fancy.

My husband does most of the meals now, and enjoys it. He didn't like my weekly routine (I agree it got old, but was easier for me). I never know what he will fix. Sometimes he calls from work to ask me to set something out to thaw. He a gourmet when he cooks, and I learn a lot watching him. The kids all like his cooking better as well.

It's not easy for him after working all day. When he comes home he usually starts something that needs to simmer for a while, or takes a while to bake. Then he goes and takes his shower, then comes back. Sometimes I help fix the salad or something and watch the stove while he is in the shower.

I really admire him cooking a great meal after coming home from work, then cleaning the kitchen after supper is over. While cleaning he always comes to where I am relaxing, watching TV or reading a book, and asks if there is anything he can get me.

PS: He is also the greatest at grilling, something would have never attempted in my life.