We are not just a “female led marriage” but a "female led family." Our daughters are always having their friends over. Their friends are all aware that my husband is the one who does all the housework. They are there when he comes home from work and starts right in on dinner, or perhaps the laundry, while I am there reading or enjoying myself on our deck. Their friends are right there and hear me tell him to do a certain chore and he never argues.
I am a woman who believes that men and boys should always respect women and girls. My husband and I are both in our 30s. We have three children, a daughter 11 and twins (a girl and a boy) 9.
Obviously they are all too young to fully understand the female led dynamic that I have with my husband—although I suspect our eldest knows more than she admits. I recently overheard her telling her younger sister who wanted to join a sleepover at a friend's house, “Don't bother asking Dad, it's Mum who decides." How right she was—and is!
It is my wish to bring up all my children to be happy and successful. For the girls this means a good education and career and taking charge of their lives. I teach them to be self-reliant and not to play second fiddle to boys. Similarly for my son, I am teaching him that respecting girls and women is key to his happiness and success. For instance, he is often praised by my women friends when he holds doors open for them or when he stands when they enter the room. I have taught him the importance of these small courtesies.
I would add that I love all of my children equally.
I know my limitations, and the kids know them, too. If it was just the three of us, we’d be living in a chaotic house, without rules. But we all three know that Mother Knows Best, she makes the rules and will enforce them.That creates order in the home, as well as harmony, domestic tranquility.Yes, the kids sometimes challenge the rightness of her decisions, though in the end they know she will prevail. I have learned not to challenge, not only because I know she will win, but because I know she is right.She decides, and I abide by her decisions.My wife’s judgment and common sense leave mine far behind, and we both recognize it. She sits at the head of the family table. She is our spiritual leader, making sure we all go to church. The kids and I recognize her ascendancy. “Go ask your mother” is my frequent answer to a whole host of questions. The kids know that dad rarely has the last word.