Sunday, February 9, 2014

DENNIS: ADDITIONAL THOUGHTS ON JOAN AND THE PROTOCOLS

That a female-in-charge lifestyle flourished within Nancy's family was obvious from the moment i walked into Her home. The formality and structure was a significant new dimension for me, but one that had been solidly in place for some time. i'd been in many Woman-led households—the henpecked-husband relationships that Kaitlin is now discovering existed in significant numbers just under the social surface. Women in these relationships wielded significant authority, but there were limits influenced by societal norms. Many Women tell Kaitlin that their public personas were more traditional because of societal expectations that Women be more deferential to men. Nevertheless, these Women were the vanguard of a movement that would eventually lead to the better-educated, in-charge and upwardly Women of today.

 
In the years before meeting Sue and Joan, i aspired to just such a marital relationship. A relationship where men took orders, did housework, and subordinated spending decisions to their Wives. To me, men in such relationships were to be admired and respected, not ridiculed.  Nancy's family took that to another level altogether, demanding a measure of service that many “henpecking Wives”—and i use this term with respect and reverence—could never have imagined.
 
The lifestyle in Nancy's family was a living thing, requiring men constantly to take on new duties, behaviors, and formalities, all framed in The Protocols. And it wasn't just Women who drove these changes; men, too, appreciated that structure was a way to ensure their doing the right thing, thus ensuring a tranquil household.


10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the article. So you sought out this type of relationship and actually found a girl who came from that type of family background? I feel like that is too rare of a chance to not have more of a story line to it. Did you have to search for Femdom clubs then looked for a girl within that community? Did you advertise online for female led relationships and she responded? I just feel like it is so rare to come across a girl who wants an FLR let alone comes from an entire family background with that as the focus.

- Greg

Sheryl said...

Greg
This type of relationship has never been rare. This has been the norm in western society since the Victorian era. Women just controlled their family through subtle soft power, a look, a gentle phrase worded as a question or advice. The men and boys knew from her tone and body language what was expected. Very similar to the commands given to border collies. The outward societal veneer even in private was maintained. Women have known forever that controlling men and boys was best handled in a feminine soft approach.

Ashly April said...

.....this same group of women usually discover a membership which is labeled "spinsterhood" and can be found in any high school reunion of ten years or more...

Alex said...

Ms. Sheryl,

Whereas Women are the Dominant and Superior Sex and Gender (which are two different thing and they are both) what is rare is an OVERT Femdom relationship. Yes, Women by nature dominate, their voice is so sweet it is heard and can make one melt. They have a power, mentally, spiritually and sexually that cannot be overstated and they are the most valuable creature -- the pinnacle of creation BUT I cannot call a relationship Femdom unless all this is acknowledged and Female entitlement to power and dominance accepted as the basis for the relationship. The rest to me is just vanilla even if, say, the wife is a cuckoldress and a spanker. Yo me it matters not, -- if She doesn't embrace her status as the superior, dominant Female in the way I outlined.-- Victorian or not.

Ms. Ashley
What?

Alex said...

Ms. Sheryl,

Whereas Women are the Dominant and Superior Sex and Gender (which are two different thing and they are both) what is rare is an OVERT Femdom relationship. Yes, Women by nature dominate, their voice is so sweet it is heard and can make one melt. They have a power, mentally, spiritually and sexually that cannot be overstated and they are the most valuable creature -- the pinnacle of creation BUT I cannot call a relationship Femdom unless all this is acknowledged and Female entitlement to power and dominance accepted as the basis for the relationship. The rest to me is just vanilla even if, say, the wife is a cuckoldress and a spanker. Yo me it matters not, -- if She doesn't embrace her status as the superior, dominant Female in the way I outlined.-- Victorian or not.

Ms. Ashley
What?

Anonymous said...

dennis, Can you write more about your statement that "She [Joan] would be my tutor, my confidante, and my disciplinarian."

LS

Mark Remond said...

Dennis responds to the very first Comment (from Greg) about how he met Nancy:

dennis:
Some of it was just being lucky but Nancy and i met at a NOW meeting when we were in college. Women were naturally skeptical of male motives when they came to a NOW meeting but i worked hard for the group and was accepted by them and by Nancy. i was raised in an all-female household so, naturally, i had a much different view of Female authority than did most men. i was looking for a strong, in-control Woman and i found Her in Nancy. While i was predisposed to follow, She was predisposed to lead, what with coming from a family where the Women were firmly in charge. It all just clicked for us.

d

Ashly April said...

........all of this is fine but this trend is limited to a few web sites. Some months ago, a woman named Paige Harrison tried to expand this FLR protocal and frankly....failed.

Alex said...

It is disappointing that this is such a small community. Why is almost everything out there porn?

Where are all the normal people who want a matriarchal relationship? How can BDSM be so big and Femdom so small?

Ashly April said...

Alex and his mate are absolutely correct....