Tuesday, February 18, 2014


From Mark Remond: I ‘m as euphoric as a summer skyrocket at the news that Fumika Misato has finally decided to publish Real Women Don’t Do Housework as a book. As you will know, if you’re a regular reader of this blog (all the way back to its beginnings in 2007), I’ve been a long-time convert to Lady Misato’s revolutionary ideas for saving and revitalizing marriages.

Her long-awaited book, which can now be downloaded gratis in .pdf from Scribd.com, is a 93-page quintessence of her wonderful website, which introduced the idea of “wife worship” to the world.

Rather than write a brand-new review of RWDDHI’m going to reprint my “Tribute to Lady ‘M’” from April 2008, which I also used as a Dedication to Worshipping Your Wife 2:Best of the Blog:

A Tribute to Lady ‘M’ (4.17.08)

In my book I celebrate the rise of FLRs, female-led relationships, and LFA, loving female authority:

“…a new type of female empowerment—not to be confused with female domination or female supremacy. In fact, the proponents of this new empowerment generally dismiss the world of ‘femdom,’ with its bizarre rituals and iconography, as a kind of male-oriented fantasy-land, in which women are ultimately devalued.” (Worshipping Your Wife, p. 84)

I don’t know who coined FLR and LFA, but the acronyms seem to have caught on, especially FLR, helping to destigmatize and advance the cause of women as loving leaders in marriages and romantic relationships.

They’ve accomplished this largely by replacing all the mondo bizarro imagery associated with femdom—B&D, S&M, et al. Instead of a whip-wielding, vinyl-sheathed dominatrix lording it over a groveling lump of naked male flesh, we may now envision something akin to the radiant image that graces Lady Misato’s website, Real Women Don’t Do Housework—and also the cover of my book.

“The Accolade” (1901) by Edmund Leighton depicts a lovely queen or princess, standing statuesque in a shaft of light as she confers knighthood with a longsword on a kneeling, unhelmeted warrior, head bent. Googling will yield many similar images from Leighton, along with those by his fellow historical painters in the English Pre-Raphaelite school, John William Waterhouse and Sir Edward Burne-Jones.

Yes, submissive men can be viewed as heroic knights, and their dominant damsels may be transfigured as radiant and fully empowered queens. This is not just the storybook romance model, but the courtship model, which Lady Misato converted into a working blueprint for contemporary wife-worship (or “wifedom,” as she also calls it) and which I subsequently made the cornerstone of my book.

I acknowledge my considerable debt to Fumika Misato, not just for inspiring my book, but also for helping to save my marriage—and many other marriages, I’m sure. Perhaps she did not originate the terms “Loving Female Authority” (that may have been Elise Sutton, softening her own website a bit) and “Female Led Relationship,” but “Wife Worship” is almost certainly Lady Misato’s inspired coinage. And I regard her as the prime creatrix of the new FLR movement, which is rapidly gaining mainstream acceptance.

For me, and many other men I have discussed these matters with, it was Real Women Don’t Do Housework that showed us that our longings to serve a woman are not necessarily twisted or perverse, but are at the very pulsing heart of romantic longing, even of heroic courtship. They can be proclaimed proudly, not hidden away or denied. Instead of leading us into masturbatory fantasies over kinky images, these longings can lead us right back into our marriages and back to our wonderful wives. We have only to embrace our wives as loving leaders, to treat them as the queens and goddesses they truly are.

Or, to cite my favorite motto: “If you want your wife to be a goddess, worship her.”—Clairette de Longvilliers

Vive La Misato!


tony said...

Thank you, Mark. Just downloaded it and look forward to offering this to my wife for her reading pleasure.

Alex said...

Hi Mark,

I'm sorry to sound less enthusiast and I did download the book but it keeps bewildering me how the best sites on the subject are static and I kind of feel disappointed especially by one like Ms. Misato's site which, sorry to say, but is too good to be treated the way She does.

Thanks to Her for doing what She did and allowing people to download Her site as a book, cool stuff, whatever but the truth is She has SO MUCH more potential than that that it's just sad and disappointing that Her site doesn't move in centuries, there are no posts, no new things to say, nothing, just that after maybe 5 years you can now download the whole thing as a PDF. Cool. Thanks. But You have so much more than that in you!!!! I wished She had a DRIVE to I dunno... write... even make money! Write something and CHARGE A DOLLAR! 10 DOLLARS! That would keep Her writing! But no, after 5 years of NADA She said well, I know... let's take everything and make it into a PDF.

Sorry, but just like a Femdom relationship, a relationship with a site will be stagnant if the webMistress doesn't do a thing in 5 or even I think 8 years... so...

Anonymous said...

I would like to thank Lady Misato and Mark for their sites and books. I feel they are both essential resources for anyone serious about FLR, and it is very kind of Lady Misato to give away her book.

Alex is right. Yes, I know Lady Misato’s site has so much untapped potential. Pre-release she sent out an email to her emailing list asking for advice on publishing, etc. so if anyone has any suggestions or ideas for her site or book I am sure she would welcome your input.

I would like to bring up the quote below from Ronald:

I urge everyone here reading this to explore into blogs on FLR in other parts of the world. For example in Malaysia. To quote one blog in Malaysia they treat their husbands like their most prized possession. A property worth showing off to all your friends. Why would you ever need to take another lover when you have one trained to service your every need?

February 11, 2014 at 11:59 AM

Ronald could you recommend any other sites you have found in your travels?

Also could you consider writing some more on the Malaysian blogs. There are so many questions to be explored. Malaysia is after all a pretty strict Muslim country. Are these Chinese Malay or native Malay couples? Is this a new phenomenon, etc?

Thank you in anticipation of your reply


tony said...

RWDDH was one of the early Femdom sites on the Internet. like Elise Sutton's. Both haven't changed too much over the years, but have provided a very good service and very educational. Ms Misato is a pioneer in the scene and we should all respect that. Thank you, Ma'am, for sharing your book with us,

Mark Remond said...

Tony - thank you for the comment above on behalf of Lady Misato and Real Women Don't Do Housework. She was extremely active, and a pioneer who has influenced many, many marriages for the better. I, too, would wish she had been more active in recent years in terms of her website, but in the end I can only be thankful for all that she has done, for me and for others. At its peak in the late 90s, her Yahoo! Husbands Forum was a thriving community, in which guys like me were educated on a daily basis about better ways to worship and serve our wives. So, too, was her Wives Forum, but husbands were not permitted to join that, of course.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for posting this. I've always been a fan of Lady Misato's website. The best motivation for serving and submitting to a woman is worshiping her, I think. And hopefully the free download spreads the idea more.a