Eager to show your wife that her word is your command? Well, in all likelihood, she has issued many commands in the past that you have let slide. Perhaps because they were disguised as polite requests or even vague wishes.
Fdhousehusband, who writes the highly trafficked blog, Her Househusband’s Life, describes how he finally realized this in his own marriage, and what a dramatic impact it had on him, and them:
“i found that i was actually hindering the growth of [my Wife’s] dominant side. When She would say that a light bulb was out or that there was laundry in the washer that needed to be hung up, i sometimes was too lazy to comply right away. i found that each of these actions undermined Her dominance and She would revert back to O/our old relationship. i also learned that Females speak in a diferent language. When They want something done, They don't come out and say it. In the early days, my Wife would say something like, ‘My carpooler went home early so I'll be taking the bus home today.’ i just accepted that like She was giving me a bit of information. What She really was saying was ‘I need you to pick me up from work.’ Once i understood the Female language, i learned to respond by saying things like ‘May i pick You up from work today?’ i found that She really responded to these ‘offers’ to do things for Her which She in fact had prompted with subtle ‘requests.’ i also think that it showed Her that i was really listening to everything She was saying.”
Let’s apply this seasoned advice from fd. Why not take a few moments, or as long as you need, to draw up a list of tasks that your wife has expressed even a casual interest in getting taken care of… or items she would like to have (not big-ticket items, I’m not suggesting you spend big bucks without her authorization).
Not directives, but things that were perhaps dropped into the conversation in your hearing that you let slide.
Then start to work on the list, doing or buying or taking care of as many items as you can. If you do this, maybe you could let me know here, in Comment form, if your Wife notices, and what the upshot is, in terms of your FLR. Positive, we hope.
By the way, I’m going to take my own — and fdhousehuband’s — advice as soon as I post this and start drafting my own list, going room by room, for starters. Oh, and next time I hear her express some vague desire, I’m going to add it to my list -- as a command!